he basically said that he needed some time becuz he had a son and he didn't really spend anytime with him. So i said okay and now it has been a month and were still not together. i don't no if i should just let it go or wait. I really love him. And the thing that confuses me is it that we still act like a couple but he tells everyone that were friends. I'm really confused. I do for everything 4 him. i feel like i need him in my life we both are 18 and everyone says i'm young and i need to find someone else.
2006-11-21 04:57:55 · 14 answers · asked by BritBrit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to back off a bit. Yes continue to be in his life, but stop doing everything for him. He is still getting all of the benefits of having a gf without having a gf. You may want to start looking elsewhere as what is the point of you being broken up, if he still wants to spend all this time with you, sounds like he is using his kid as an excuse so that he can play in the water a bit. However you are never really going to look nor will anything else work until you are ready to let go and move on, so I would just back yourself off a little bit at a time. Either things will change and he will want to tell people you are together again or you will finally get to the point where you are ready to move on. Either way you'll be happier.
2006-11-21 05:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too young but you are an adult who can make your own choices.if this guy treats u like his gal when you are alone then like a friend when you are with his mates, then sorry but he is most probably in another r/ship thats why he keeps justifying to all that you arejust friends.
if this is the case just leave him alone people say you aint known what u got till its gone so just give him that space and try doin something else. i know it looks hard but how far are you willing to go to sacrifice your happinness for someone who only cares about himself?
i know you really love him but does he really love you? stop doing everything for him ro else he's gonna treat you like his mama. this is coz he knows no matter what he does to hrt you, you wont wanna split up with him.
doing everything for someone doesnt mean that you love them and if he were man enough he'd tell you the truth. try and not think about him so much ar else the pain is gonna be worse. you can also try and talk to him and sort this issues out if he really loves you, he'll wanna hold on if he's not interested in listening or talking to you then just walk away and dont look back or he'll never change
2006-11-21 05:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by valery p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants the benifits but not the commitment. Move on. If it's meant to be it will work out eventually, but don't hold your breath. That whole "I need a break" thing is complete bullsh*t anyway. Usually that's an excuse for a guy to go "play house" wth other girls, but keep you hanging around in case nothing more interesing comes along. Trust me on this one- it's bad news for you. Regardless of how much you love him, he doesn't love you.
2006-11-21 05:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by sandostrich 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to everyone. If he still spends time with you but only calls you a friend, he is not worth the while. Except if you will be content to remain second priority in his live forever. But in my opinion you are too young to wait.
2006-11-21 05:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by krisi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes playing games. The whole I need space thing usually means I want to get what you give me but still be able to mess with other people without saying he cheated. You are young and you will find someone new. Believe me.
2006-11-21 05:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by Yellowtulips 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its true you are pretty young. and from what it sounds like if he cant manage you and his kid and other things going on..then maybe he isnt ready for a relationship. never get attached to someone who doesnt feel the same way for you. it can never work out. let him be and just move on. ppl with kids are always hard. u'll find someone else, your young and theres probably someone else out there for you but your stuck on him.
2006-11-21 05:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by stefanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only 18.Stop letting him play mind games with you.He wants to keep you around because you doing everything 4 his stanking ***.Let it go,fast!
2006-11-21 05:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just keeping you around. He needs to make up his mind. If he wants to behave like your boyfriend, then he needs to respect you enough to call you his girlfriend. As long as you let him get away with it, that's what he'll do! He's stringing you along.
2006-11-21 05:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by jframeisu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it kinda sounds like he's cheating on you. think about it- its been a month and he still hasn't gotten back with u? is he actually spending time with his son? call him every night to see if he's there.
2006-11-21 05:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by happy13213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a Timetable He either needs to make a desision or you need to move on.
2006-11-21 05:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by BLADE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋