i just got engaged on the 19th. we are having an engagement party at his parents house on the 3rd...
first off i hate how one cant find nice simple printable free engagement annoucment/invitation. everything always so expensive or nonexsisting!
anyway. i called up my mother the next day after i got off of work to tell her. i talked to my brother and he tells me shes away for the week!!?!?! im afraid that when i do get a hold of her to telling her shell cause a big hissy fit like she did the last time i was engaged (which was years ago) whats the best way to deal with her?
to boot i dont want her putting up a fuss because we decided to have it at his parents house which is big enough to have everyone over and not worry about paying for food or anything. its a pot luck. bring a dish type deal.
its kind of diffacult to involve the mother of the bride if the bride cant communicate with her!!
2006-11-21 04:56:37 · 11 answers · asked by lusciousevil 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
lol thanks for the answers so far!
my mom does have a cell phone however its even more difficult to contact her! werid i know but her battery is almost always dead, she never hears it, she forgets to take it, IE she doesnt know how to use it bascically it was a waste of her money but hey whatever.
i asked my bro whether i should call her and he told me no leave them be. i trust his judgement when it comes to my mothers moods so that why i didnt ask for the hotel number.
which in point the whole thing frustrates me that its never simple when dealing with her.
2006-11-21 05:08:11 · update #1
Sounds as if you are stressing already! Calm down and take a deep breath! Is there a number where you can call your mother? Does she have a cell phone, or do you know where she is staying? If you can't get in touch with her by phone, then she has no reason to be upset with you when she returns home. Explain to her your reasoning for having the party at the home of your future in-laws. After that, make sure you plan something special for the two of you such as looking for your dress, or making further wedding plans. Above all, remember it is YOUR wedding, and especially if you are paying for it yourself, you need to be able to make the final decisions. Congratulations and Good Luck!
2006-11-21 05:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by bugged 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, breathe, count 'till ten... relax... breathe again.. ok, let's get started.
You can design a simple engagement party invitation on your computer, All you need is a printer, YOu can design it with Microsoft Publisher which is standard if you have an office Microsoft Office pacakage, They have lots of pre-made templates and you can add designs from the internet for free if you wish, Print them at home on your color printer. Done.
About your mom, send her an email, call her cellphone and leave a voicemail, send her one of the invitation above to her address. There is PLENTY of time before the third, don't stress. Tell your brother that if he sees her or talk to her to announce the news and extend the invitation and that her formal invitation is awaiting at home.
All you can do is invite her and tell her that you wanted to include her in your plans for your engagement party, but her trip and the fact that is hard to get a hold of her made it impossible. Tell her that you want her all the way throu the process and that her involvment means a lot to you.
Don;t stress about who is giving you the party. Tell her taht decision were made fast and that there will be plenty more oportunities for her to particvipate, besides, the FML house is bigger and it will be an informal affair.
Congratulations and best of luck to you!!!
2006-11-21 06:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have a difficult relationship with your mother. Either you could have a second engagement "tea" at your mother's house aftrer she has returned from her trip where she can invite her friends, or you will have to "face the music" and say you and your soon to be husband decided the engagement party would be at his house and let it land where it lands.
Invitations can easily be made. Take an 8.5 x 11 sheet of paper and print on your computer what you'd like your invitation to say, then cut in half (makes two invitations) and lightly apply glue to the edge. Either dip the edge in glitter or place a tiny ribbon along the edge. Use a colored pen to highlight the print. Fold in half and address the outside, stamp and mail.
I hope all goes well for you. Congratulations.
2006-11-21 05:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you are having some problems. First of all, I've seen several people create their own wedding invitations using just Microsoft Word, and finding a nice graphic and typefont. So, you could get creative and design one yourself. One of the neatest ones I ever saw was where the couple took a picture with a waterfall in the background (they took this in upstate New York in November). Then they scanned the picture into Word as a watermark. Then go to the office supply store and locate some nice stationery to print it on. Have your husband to be review it and a friend before printing to ensure it's perfect and you can do the invitations or announcement very inexpensively this way.
If your mom is incommunicado, then she will have to accept that you did try to reach her. If she doesn't like it, let her blow, she WILL get over it.
2006-11-21 05:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by Searcher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regarding invitations a fun way to go is www.evite.com since it is the engagement and since it seems to be a casual event (pot-luck style ..cool) then many folks would think of it as a cute invite. Then at the actual party you could create either on your own PC or at Kinkos an inexpensive card that could serve as an engagement announcement and a save-the-date for your wedding...one of my past clients did this and it was gorgeous. You can e-mail me if you like and I'd be happy to assist you with this.
Regarding mom and a party with her, I'd do an intimate luncheon with her and very close friends and relatives at a restaurant or make it fun and do it on a Sunday at a nice location that has a champagne brunch. Be sure to reserve an area with the restaurant so that you have a little privacy but still with the public around that will make your mother somewhat behave herself. :) Hope this helps
2006-11-21 05:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by GretchenS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, first of all, best wishes to you.
Secondly: Yikes!
Sounds like this dinner is the least of your worries with your mother.
Here's the thing to remember: you cannot control her or how she's going to react to anything you may or may not do. You can only control your part of it.
Rise above the battlefield.
You're anticipating things that haven't happened yet.... and how you're going to react.
Maybe your mother will be thrilled for you. Maybe she won't. In either case, take the high road. You'll always be glad that you did.
Good luck!
2006-11-21 05:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she not have a cell phone or is there not a phone where she is going?
If his parents house is bigger that hers than you have picked the right place to have the party. Of course, to be 'politically correct' you might want to pick a place that is outside of the family...i.e., community center or even a church you attend.
As to your mother, if all she does is throw a hissy fit about where your engagement party is...be thankful!
2006-11-21 05:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by so_icouldcareless 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go on about your business. If you have been engaged before, you should have learned by now that you just have to do what is right for you. You want her support, but if she is going to act like a child, there is nothing that you can do about it.
You can't help that she left town and that you don't have anyway to get in touch with her. You wanted to involve her but it was out of your control as she was gone. If that isn't good enough for her, then nothing will be. Good luck!
-EZ
2006-11-21 06:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you're confusing things yourself. If it was important to you that your mother be at your engagement party, then you wouldn't have picked a date for it before making sure she can be there. Apparently, you don't care too much if she can attend since you didn't check the date with her before planning it.
And of course she might put up a fuss! You planned your engagement party with his parents without even consulting her on a single thing. You didn't even give her a chance to host it and made the decision without her.
2006-11-21 06:10:27 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love your fiance, then your mom should be happy for you! Having the engagement party at his parents' house shouldn't be a bad thing, because they will have to deal with everything...your mom should be thankful!
2006-11-21 06:26:47 · answer #10 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋