I have been dating this guy long distance for awhile. We have both said I love you and he has flown me down to where he lives (it's a five hour flight). He has introduced me to his mother, cousins and friends where he lives. He has even hinted at other things (such as asking about what I would want to name my children, and also hinting where a good place would be for me to live near his city).
The part that I am confused about is that he doesn't call when he says he will. Last night he specifically said that he would call me later (he was out with friends, which is fine)..but then he never called me. This wouldn't bother me too much except for the fact that this has happened about five times in the past few months... most of the time he acts like he didn't remember saying he would call.
How do I handle this? He seems very serious about this relationship except for this one thing...I don't want to nag, but at the same time I want this resolved.
2006-11-21 04:55:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there are a lot of possible explanations. i'm a guy and i know for a fact that it could mean nothing. he really might have just forgotten. does he act apologetic or does he get irritated when you ask him about it? he might have just fallen asleep before he got around to calling or gotten home so late he thought you would be asleep. on the other hand, he might have been up to no good. you can tell a lot from his reaction to you asking about what he was up to. if he's sorry, that's a good sign. if he gets defensive or angry, that's a bad sign. defensiveness might indicate that he was doing something(or someone) that you would not approve of. i don't wanna make you paranoid, that's just my take on it. i'm not an expert on relationships by any means. it would be best if you could ask him about it in person. that way you could take his body language into account. it's much easier to be deceptive over the phone or thru email. hope everything works out for you.
2006-11-21 05:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dale B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he did honestly forget. It happens. Five times in a few months is less than once a week. I forget something at least once a week. I think we all do. Maybe he's especially flakey on relationships. I wouldn't worry about it. Call him at those times if it's a big deal that you talk to him then.
2006-11-21 05:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it, long distance relationships are BAD!!! One of them almost ruined my life, I moved to her town and it was a nightmare. By the sound of it he is planning on making you move near his home but believe me if it doesn't work out you might regret it and you won't be able to erase it ever. Find a nice guy where you live, it will be easier for you. Good luck.
2006-11-21 05:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by Skullsoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time it happens, just be honest- "hey hun, you said you'd call me last night and I waited up and was worried when you didn't call" and see what he says. He may be just saying casually "talk to ya later!" as a casual way to end a phone call, rather than a specific promise to call you back later that same evening. If he knows you really expect a return phone call, and he may not now be, he may be more conscious of time and call you back.
2006-11-21 05:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that when he goes out with his friends he is meaning a girl or that he is going home with one. Long distance relationships are hard and guys can get away with a lot more...
2006-11-21 05:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the person you want to be with then you are going to have to put up with this, if he does not call when he says wait half an hour then call him.
2006-11-21 05:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by MUSHMAN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a guy the always forget to call. I have been dating one for over 6 years and he still forgets to call sometimes,
2006-11-21 04:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by ams_roxy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i might might desire to assert that tyler doesnt recognize what he needs. he might think of he does, even with the undeniable fact that it feels like he has alot of turning out to be as much as do. in case you adult men are basically in this so observed as chum zone then he has no reason to get all possessive over you. if friends is all he needs. then subsequently thats all hes going to get. so what i think of you will possibly desire to do is confer with tyler and tell him that the two he needs a relationshp with you. or you adult men can stay contained in the chum zone. or in case you get right into a relaionship with somebody, tyler might desire to easily be supportive of you. and not attempt controlling you.
2016-10-04 05:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by alia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see. You are only the focus of his life when you are immediately in it. It's not a good sign of future things to come.
He probably has a local girl that he's out with.
2006-11-21 04:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by texascrazyhorse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds less unusual than you'd think. Basically you need to discuss it because underneath is a trust issue...
2006-11-21 04:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by Cheshire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋