I am no longer with my babys father yet...when we are together I cant help but fall like a dumbass and sleep with him. I stupidly believe everything he tells me...He says he will change...(he has drinking problems and is trying to stop) But a stupid thing like a simple arguement will cause him to drink n drive...I feel like he doesnt care about our baby when he makes stupid desicions like these...he hardly helps me out....He constantly tells me he loves me...even when I treat him like **** and tell him to get the **** out of my life and that he ruined it...He still talks to me after my dad threatened to kill him...and chased him with a machete...(sounds crazy huh?) but it did happen...I dont know Im confused...I think he loves me then I find out he's chatting online and having girls call him...It hurts cuz I always fall for his lies.Whether to believe him or not...Another thing he is always accusing me of cheating? I hardly go out let alone talk to other guys.. Whats up with that?
2006-11-21 04:47:23 · 11 answers · asked by Licha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He accuses you of cheating because he is cheating. Its guilt. And hell ya you should get out of this relationship. It is not healthy for you or your child and you guys deserve a sincere caring man who will treat you how you should be treated.
It is easy to fall into a trap with a person you have been so use to. But believe me, after you leave you will realize you made the right choice. It is hard at first, but it only can get better.
Get out when you can, the longer you wait the harder it will be. Dont you want to see yourself and your child out of a situation in which crazy situations like dad chasing him with a knife is not in the picture.
2006-11-21 04:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by ny_girl11229 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a loser and you'll be one too if you continue this relationship. Then, the saddest thing of all, you've brought an innocent baby into your mess.
He is an alcoholic
He is a liar
He is a womanizer
He is an abuser
He is a moocher
What is it that has brought you this low? Where is your self esteem? This is a lose-lose relationship. If you want to have a life worth living and if you love your baby, get away from him now.
2006-11-21 12:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Girl leave him alone he's a deadbeat you know what to do but you want to hear everyone else tell you to work it out. You better start going out and meet you a real man that will be there for you and your child. Do you want an alcoholic around your child and if your dad hates him then thats a sign!!!
2006-11-21 12:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by babygyrl11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you realize that the most important thing in your life now is your baby? Do you want to be one more in the statistical of murder or accident by a drunk? If you were mature enough to have a baby you should be to raise him and know what is good for you and what is bad, A good sex??? sex is the less important thing in this case, how you can put your life and your baby in so danger just because he wants to play????Any way, what i think is that if he wants to change he should go to rehabilitation and after that see what happens.
2006-11-21 12:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by lovetoyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to let go,u have taken him back one too many times all u got to do is make it on your own and find yourself a better guy,stop having sex with him,u can still talk to him but if u find that it is difficult to be in the same room with him and not have sex with him,never let yourself be in that environment anymore,sex is all gud but they are still some guys who can give u the best and still love you,care for u,provide for u and evrything,let go of the drunkard cuz it aint an easy thing to quit drinkin unless if he is committed to you and love u as much as he says it.be gud to yourself and the baby and let daddy go,cuz it aint working.hope i did not offend u,
2006-11-21 13:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by loveguru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that relationship NOW. If for no other reason than for the sake of your child. He has control issues, is an alchoholic and irresponsible. Do you want your child to grow up thinking it is ok for men to treat women that way? NO - get out. Seriously, if you need help feel free to message me - I'm a single mom who went through almost the exact same thing. There are places you can go, and people who can help....
2006-11-21 12:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunn i know the does not sound nice but hes a player and u need to move on cuz it doesnt seem like hell change but it does seem like ur daddy is gonna kill him...
2006-11-21 12:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by KARiNA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sooner or later you WILL wake up,and move on.Do whats best for you and your child first!!!!!
2006-11-21 12:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like your dad.
your guy wants his cake and eats it too. we all make mistakes when it comes to men. it is up to you to stop the cycle.
2006-11-21 12:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a drunk. He's an alcoholic. Seek support with Al-Anon
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
2006-11-21 12:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋