My son is not really "bad", he's almost three years old so how bad could he be, he is just very difficult and I feel guilty taking him to people's houses. He screams, bangs on their TVs, throws thigs and breaks them sometimes, just everything to destroy their home practically. My realtives keep telling me it's ok and this is how children are but I know they feel relieved when I leave. A lot of times I just leaves abruptly because I can't take it anymore ( I have a newborn too so it is even harder). When will this change? Does anyone else feel this way? Is it wrong for me to stay home because of him, I'm just waiting for this phase to pass. Don't tell me to spank him, I'll twist his ear if he's really bad but I don't hit him, once or twice I have in the past, and I try time out all the time.
2006-11-21 04:46:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Does your son take up all your attention when you are alone with him? Do you feel like you have to "entertain" him? Does he get his way when he has tantrums at home?
I have a friend with a 2 and a half-year-old, and she could answer yes to all questions. I think her son is spoiled. She's a nervous wreck. And whenever they go somewhere he screams for attention.
Try to change how you do things with him at home. Don't react to tantrums. Teach him how to play alone. This is something my friend never could understand. You have to get down on the floor and show him how to play. Then leave him alone.
Before visiting friends, warn him in the car that he has to be a good boy. Build him up, and tell him what you expect of him. If he's naughty, then it's right to leave. And better for the host as well.
Good luck. You can do it!
2006-11-21 05:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by bluebyou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you be attentive to way too plenty with regard to the hot lady chum. That suggested, take him lower back to court docket and have the help order enforced...that's the way you do it. If there has been family members abuse on the living house and the police have been observed as that's plenty adequate to request a exchange in visitation...If the police have not been observed as you may desire to empower your newborn to p.c.. up the telephone while those fights get loopy. without documentation from the police it is going to likely be greater stable to get the exchange in custody - yet not impossible. My mom had visitation and then became a loopy under the impact of alcohol - even going so some distance as throwing ceramic mugs at us toddlers one night...it relatively is not desirable and the police ought to be observed as. upload: i've got confidence the could desire to function...the adults could be entering into it and not the toddlers - yet they're there! They see the violence and that they hear it and that's seen a antagonistic ecosystem. It does greater harm than you think of...it relatively is twisted my perception on what's seen a healthful relationship. it is going to not be tolerated! not for yet another minute!
2016-10-22 12:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by wach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not uncommon for this to happen. Does he do it at your home too? If so, he is old enough to be disciplined, and understand what you mean when you tell him not to do something. Even in public, it may be hard to stand up to him and tell him to sit in time out, or however you choose to punish, but he'll catch on. If he's like this at home and you can get him under control there you're on your way to solving this problem. If this is only in public it may just be his way of acting out for attention. Since you have a newborn he now feels like he/she gets all the attention and wants to be noticed. There is nothing wrong with that, just maybe bring some toys for him, or even if you paid attention to him while out it may make a difference. Every kid is different and behaves differently, but this is something that everyone goes through at some time, you just have to figure out what is causing it and find a fix.
2006-11-21 05:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by ... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If our son misbehaves when we are out he gets a time out it doesn't matter where we are just find a place and make him stay. At the park one day he was acting up so we had him sit under a tree for his time out. That's the nice thing about time outs is that you can do them anywhere. Other parents understand they have all been there before you. You don't have to twist his ear that's just as bad as a spanking sweetie. Good Luck and there is no need to do anything physical to a child ever just be consistent with your timeouts. It really does work!!.
2006-11-21 04:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by mary3127 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am glad you leave when your child starts acting like that. I had to stop inviting certain people over because they wouldn't do that. I know kids will be kids but there comes a point of discipline as well. Look into some martial art classes in the area. They will let them start around 3-4 years old. That can also help.
2006-11-21 04:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg i honestly didn't think there was someone else out there with a child like mine. Our son has just turned 2 and since finding out im pregnant with number 2 he has been a total nightmare. But to be honest it is not really his fault, he is going through alot of changes. It just stresses me out so much sometimes.
We are trying time out at the moment when he is being naughty so hoping he starts behaving better. I am so ashamed when we go to my parents house and he starts taking tantrums and hitting me or throwing things about. Im hoping this is just a phase.
2006-11-21 05:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can very well relate to you as I have seen a friend of mine who has the same problem. He is not very sociable and donot let us sit on the sofa (it is where my mom or dad sits) He doesnot share and he scratches my daughter so I don't feel like visiting them anymore.
As for you maybe you could try talking to your son. Do you have any idea how he became so violent? Does anyone in the house do that in anger? Do you or your spouse fight in front of your kid? Does he watch violent movies? Are you his only caregiver? If not try letting him be with your spouse or your relatives and see his reaction.
Don't stop visiting friends and relatives. Your son needs to be around people other than you. ALL THE BEST
2006-11-21 04:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's got some anger issues. Did this start after the new baby came? It's not normal for a child to destroy someone's home.
2006-11-21 04:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lady J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've not gone to other's houses because of children like that. Be firm with him and march him home as soon as he acts like that. Visiting is for enjoyment, not for him to be a brat. After a few times, he'll start realizing that having bad behavior won't get him anything but taken home and punished. Don't let that kid rule your house. Kids are not like that. He's acting out because you allow it.
2006-11-21 04:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by Velken 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? You need to be able to control your child. I would be horrified if my 3 year old acted like that. DO something about it for god's sake.
2006-11-21 05:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋