my mom doesnt want me to have a bf HELP !!!!?

Question

IM IN HIGH SCHOOL AND IM 15.she wont let me talk to him on the house phone nor my cell phone.he tried to introduce himself to her over the phone and she hung up.he's a real nice person amd very respectful.she always gets mad when i dont include her in my life,and when other people find out before her.how can i explain to her im 15 and should be able to have a boyfriend.

Answer 1

that is something you need to discuss with your mother. She may have her reasons. Talk to her

Answer 2

1st things first, Don't be in such a hurry to grow up honey, It's not all that great. I know you think it's hard being the kid and being told what you can and can't do, but you're mom isn't raising you to be a child, she's raising you to be a adult.You need to sit down and really talk to you're mom, you need to be understanding and calm. If you go at her yelling and screaming, you will continue to be treated as a child. If you lie to her and go behind her back, you will also loose what trust she does have. You are only 15. And you're moms job is to love and protect you, thats all she is trying to do sweety. If she is getting upset about other people knowing things about you before she does, then she must think you two have a pretty good relationship. I know it's hard to believe but you're mom was young once too, (and it wasn't that long ago) maybe she is trying to protect you from making the same mistakes she did? Ask her about her teen yrs., ask her how it felt when her parents didn't want her to grow up. If she is honest and open with you, you need to do the same. tell her how you feel and ask then if you two can come up with some kind of compermise, maybe group dating or watching a movie at home with him. Just stay calm and listen to what she has to say. If she tells you no to all of it, then ask her what more can you do, to prove to her that you are mature enough to handle it. Better grades, helping around the house, getting a pt after school job, what? Then do it, and don't loose you're cool at any time, this will just give her more reason to say you're not ready. If you want to be treated like a young lady, you need to start acting like one.

Answer 3

1st of all consider ur mom as ur friend n not a devil. Include her 2 your daily routine as in tell her what happened, what u did, whom did u meet, etc. Then slowly bring this guy in2 d picture n let her know k u get well along with him. Tell her n go 2 a movie with him.Let ur mom know k u both r close. Let her know things, dont hide anything. This process is a bit long. But this way u will not loose the guy nor ur mom will loose her temper.

Answer 4

Give her time. Soon she'll understand two things--you aren't a little girl anymore, and that she really has no control over you. While she's learning that, do your best to make responsible decisions and build yourself into a responsible adult so she won't feel like she has to take care of you or run your life completely. Kids dating is one of the toughest things for a parent (there is so much trouble you can get into, and I don't just mean the stuff you learned about in sex-ed)--make sure she knows she doesn't need to worry too much. It sounds like you are on the right track. Also, listen to her too--she isn't against you, she's on your side, but a little misguided. It just takes time.

Answer 5

At 15, a girl is not considered as matured enough to take her own decisions.

You appear to be outgrown your age and are in hurry to get freedom from social & cultural discipline. Your mom is concerned for your security and safety. That is why she wants to keep you away from outsiders so that you may not encounter child (?) abuse type of situation.

One would wonder as to why you are so keen for a male friend and why not a female friend?

You appear to be a student you should have been worried for your studies rather than grabbing a boyfriend.

Answer 6

umm, if you do have a boyfriend just have it be that thing where you go out w/ friends and he's there... dont go out trying to hook up with boys..

the reason parents dont want their daughters going out w/ boys at the age of 15 is because other guys will try to go out w/ you.. older guys... and you think 'omg my boyfriend is 19! im so cool!'

you want to go out to hold hands and talk and all that great stuff, but guess what happends when you go out w/ someone older and get into that mess? all he wants to do is have sex and leave you feeling miserable and emotionally messed up that you cant have a normal relationship w/ another guy the rest of your life

going out w/ people sucks, wait till your older so you know what your doing, because if your going out w/ people when your 19 or 20 your going to look back and wish things were the way they were when you were 15 and dating didnt really matter and you just hung out and had fun

your 15, your not a grown up, just have fun being young instead of trying to be all grown up only to lose your childhood

Answer 7

sometimes parents can be hard to talk to thats coz they feel like they know it all. what i suggest you do is continue talking to this guy even if your mum aint for it as long as you aint doin anything wrong.
i was in the same situation my dad dnt want to hear anything about it so i decided to see him behind his back that was 2 yrs back and we are still together thats coz i gave him time to cool it off then i xplained why i was with him. he got mad at first but i showed him i was responsible and even though he still doesnt agree with it, he has accepted.
if you have big brothers n sisters talk to them or try talkin to your mum and let her understand why you want a boyfrieand maybe she still thinks of you as her little girl and is afraid that u are growing up too fast so just talk to her in a nyce way esp when she's in a gooood mood that way she will listen to you but dont do anything stupid or she will prove that you are not mature or ready for a boyfie

Answer 8

Take it slow and easy. Your mom probably has some good reasons, not the least of which is to ensure your protection. Think of a special family occasion, like a cookout, and invite him over. Once your mom gets to know him, her opinion might change. But be prepared for it to worsen if he turns out to be a jerk.

Answer 9

do things and help around the house that will show your mature and old enough to kknow that you can have a bf. you should sit down with her and talk about him or bring his name up when something comes up that links to him eg your mum may say "oh i like that new song on the radio" then you could say "oh yeh this guy likes that song too" she'll soon se that you really like him. tel her that being your mother shes allways want you to be hapy so why cant she let you be with him/

Answer 10

Yeah,its the thinking of every parents in india even in abroad,if u think that he is a good person for you,but your mother take it wrong,try to show your mother that he is not bad.
As you r grown up,in your teenage,so your mother is so carefull and its not bad.
Try to show his good things to your parents,if it doesnt work then hide him from your parents,only if he is a good boy,because sometime parents can be wrong,same is the case with me.
As i m waiting for the right time so that i could be able to tell my parents that no one is better for me than him.

Answer 11

If you cannot understand why your mom does not wish you to have a boyfriend you are obviously too young and immature to have one.
SHE IS RIGHT!!!
Trust me dear, you will have plenty of time, and plenty of boyfriends.
For now you need to trust your parent's judgement even if you don't understand.
You will in time.