Do you agree when non bipolars are receiving advice not to marry bipolars?
What if you have someone close to you who is bipolar and decide to marry a non bipolar?
Would you then give the same advice?
2006-11-21 04:44:05 · 11 answers · asked by Meemee 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well, first off, I must say that I am a little offended, because I didn't know that people were actually giving out this kind of advice. I am a bi-polar manic depressive, and I am marrying someone that is not. We have been together for 3 1/2 years already, and our relationship is fine. I wouldn't ever advise someone that they shouldn't marry someone they love just because they have bi-polar disorder. There is nothing wrong with us. We function just like everyone else, it's just that usually we need medication to help us do it. So called "normal" people have their own crutches instead of medication too...drinking, smoking, driving to fast, spending too much money, that kind of stuff. So what makes us so different that we shouldn't be able to marry people that the world has deemed "normal?"
2006-11-21 05:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by stacijo531 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think the issue is that black and white. It depends a lot on the individuals involved. Being the partner to a person with BP is very difficult. I think the non-bp person really needs to be capable of understanding the disorder and be able to be supportive and compassionate. BP isn't going to go away, so the non bp needs to realize they are in it for the long haul and that there are times when it will be hellish...other times when it will be wonderful.
If a bipolar person is properly treated with counseling and medication, is stable on their medication and committed to recovery, they can live a relatively normal life.
I am bipolar and married a non-bp person...which lasted a grand total of 17 months. My having bp did not make him turn out to be a lying cheater...which is what ended the marriage. Aside from that, he really did not realize how difficult it was really going to be and how much support I would need from him.
I think a pair of people with it would have the benefit of understanding each other on a deep level, but would also be in for a very turbulent relationship.
2006-11-21 13:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bipolars should only marry bipolars, just like Heteropolars and Homopolars should only marry someone like them.
2006-11-21 04:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I completelly disagree. I am bipolar and my husband is not. I need a strong man to hold me together when I'm falling apart. And he loves to be needed. We love eachother through and through. I'll admit you have to be a strong person to deal with the highs and lows of a bipolar, if you're a weak person, then you probably shouldn't date a bipolar.
2006-11-21 04:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't agree. My best friend is bipolar and she is marrying a non bipolar person. He is her "anchor" and her support during her mentally stressful times. I think there is a good balance to be found; don't ever heed advice telling you to limit who you love.
2006-11-21 04:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jujube 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Jeez, this is beginning to sound like eugenics. Should we bipolars be allowed to breed? Should blacks be allowed to marry whites? Should the disabled be forcibly sterilised?
COME ON, PEOPLE! It's an illness, just like diabetes or IBS. And like them, it can be managed successfully with the right drugs.
What the hell difference should it make to who you choose to marry? If both partners know about it and are happy with it, who cares?
2006-11-24 04:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Random Bloke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think if bipolars did not have children the disease would pretty much die out.
Life with a bipolar is H*ll, been there done that
2006-11-21 04:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is a man I know who is Bi-Polar and married to a non Bi-Polar woman. They have a very healthy relationship and two magnifcent kids.
(By the way, Bi-Polar disorder can be genetic, but it can also be triggered, and is also a product of serotonin levels (not to sure on the last one) and, when considered "genetic" usually skips a generation.)
I am Bi-Polar, and I have been in relationships with non Bi-polars, and Bi-Polars as well. It entirely depends on the people, as with anything.
2006-11-21 17:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-11-23 13:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by LIz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a bipolar marries a nonbipolar, it is called codependency. Read all of these statements thus far and see how it relates to codependency.
2006-11-21 05:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by catzrme 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋