how do i explain to my mom that my friend jorell is just a friend and not my bf?

Question

she wont let me tak to him on the house phone nor my cell phone.he tried to introduce himself to her over the phone and she hung up.

Answer 1

Erm...........probably just as simply as you did then, petal.

Have some conviction in your voice, make her see she's being irrational and narrow minded.............probably the things that she's tried to teach you as a young woman.

Answer 2

Okay, first off, just asking - you're sure he's a platonic friend, and that's all?

If so -- well, you can't make anyone understand anything s/he doesn't want to understand. All you can do is (calmly) tell her that you care a lot for Jorell, just not in that way - you enjoy his company but he just doesn't appeal to you romantically.

Which she'll accept, or not. Is that her only objection to him, or is there something else? 'Cause if there's something else, then her objection isn't going to move until it's obvious that whatever she thought about him isn't true - and maybe not then.

You can tell her why you like him - what a great friend he is, how supportive, how he makes you laugh, whatever it is you like about him.

Hanging up on the guy isn't the most mature thing to do - best not to point that out to mom, though. What you can do is tell her that you would hope you could always introduce your mom to your friends, and you'd like her to get to know Jorell. Otherwise, when you're older, if you have friends she doesn't like, you'll have to associate with them only away from mom - and wouldn't she really rather know who your friends are?

Answer 3

You already told her, so leave it at it.

You cannot change people's belief, when you have a "bf" introduce that person as "bf".

When your mother was growing up, in those days people did not have friendship with opposite sex people, friends were only same sex people. So "bf" or "gf" was a very special relationship.

You said, "he tried to introduce himself to her over the phone and she hung up".

I say why?

You must be very young. So she does not want you to have a "bf". Or she is just protecting you,or at least trying her best. See if you can make her open up, and discuss this.

This is truly very new thing, to most older people, you must understand this. Is he the only male friend? Do you have a real "bf"?

Even to day this is a very rear phenomenon.

Show this answer to her, she may be able to start understanding the relationship that you have with this friend who is a male.

Answer 4

Hello, miss as no one has to give any suggestions in others matter. But a frend wil have to make his frends feel good and relax. As if ur mom thinks tht he is ur bf then i think u vil never contact him in front of ur family, i mean when u r in home. Try to meet him in college only nt outside. If u have any other feelings for him then this wil nt work gud. nw u have to think as ur feelings 4 him

Answer 5

hii...
i think it is saying that ..only friend not bf/gf is wrong.friends are friends..it my be girl or boy.if boy is ur friend then it is obivious he is boy friend. and if girl is ur friend then she is gf.wats difference between ..friend & bf.now a boy is ur friend and u not saying that he is ur bf. i think its wrong attitude to seeing these thing.
i think bf /gf denotes that he /she is ur friend. only saying friend not denotes the m/f.
so if u in self is good people then i think ur friend will also good.and also before making friend ..u choose the the good people....so try to see in ur self that if ur friend is good & he understands the value of friend .then u have to no need of worry.and say ur mom that ur friend is good and we have good relationship.

Answer 6

then pretty much just dont tell your mom if she wants to be childish then you jus have to leave her out of it