Move in with boyfriend??

Question

I have been dating my wonderful boyfriend for almost 4 years now. Next year, he will be graduating college, and I will shortly after. His parents were talking about buying a house for him and his sister, as it will be a good investment. Should it bother me that he hasn't mentioned us living together yet? We know that we want to be together, but I think he might be afraid of taking such a big step. It only makes sense, since we spend every waking and sleeping minute together. What do you think I should do or say?

Answer 1

Move in with him and his sis. Should make for an interesting yet kinky game of Twister.....

Answer 2

I would suggest going with the flow. See how things go once the house is really bought and they've moved in, etc.

If he hasn't mentioned it, he is probably unsure about taking such a big step, as you've mentioned.

Don't bring it up until he brings it up first. You questioning might add unwanted stress to the relationship.

Also, don't forget he's got his parents to contend with. They might not think it's a good idea for you two to live together.

Answer 3

If you see a future with him, definately say something before they buy the house. Maybe he's thinking the same thing but doesn't think you'll go for it... My boyfriend and I moved in together after 3 months together, and now we've been together over 2 years, and he asked me to marry him last night. Maybe your boyfriend wants to take another step but is scared to, or maybe he doesn't see it being serious in the future...either way, you need to know what's going on. Sit him down and ask if he thinks it would make sense for you to move in together since you practically live together anyways. Good Luck!

Answer 4

You should not do anything....Perhaps he's contemplating popping the question....perhaps he would rather you didn't live together. I'm a little concerned tho' that his parents would offer to buy him and his sister a house....This forces them into a more permanent situation, where both of them should not be tied to each-other.... This leads me to believe that his parents may be the controlling types. This should be more of your concern.

Don't sweat the fact that he hasn't discussed this with you. You need to be patient. Men see things differently than women... Just take it slow, there's no rush, if you two are meant to be together, you will be.

Answer 5

People who live together before marriage increase the chances of a later divorce by 50%.

Maybe he really loves you?

But if you are "spending every waking and sleeping moment together" are you not actually living together already?

Answer 6

You shouldn't do or say anything. I know that his parents should be pretty upset if you move in and they're paying for it. I would also think they would want you to be married if you decide you want to be together. Don't put your bf in the middle of it. If he's not ready to get married then don't force him into making a decision he's not ready for.

Answer 7

You just need to be honest with him and tell him how you feel. Communication is the key to a great relationship...be open and don't be afraid. You need to do this for yourself so that you know and there's no confusion.

Answer 8

4 years is a long time, I think you should get him commited enough to marriage before you move in honestly. I think it's time to get married if you love him enough to live with him.

Answer 9

i think you need to talk to your boyfreind about this. tell him that you want to know how he would feel if you wer to move in together right when he gets this new house

Answer 10

Give it time. Do not let it bother u, yet. But do let him know nicely how ya feel.