OK, my girlfriend wants to break up and I respect that except that she says that it is because we have different taste in hobbies and music. I think she really is breaking up because she is Very social and adaptable and I am actually a little shy and I try to fit in with her friends but I am not as involved in the conversation (she says). Do you think that she is breaking up because of this (like the hobbies and music are just a front). I respect that she wants to split up. Should I get counseling to be more outgoing or are girls okay with a guy who is not super outgoing? Also if so, I am interested in meeting a girl who is, even within a few hours of me is okay (Atlanta).
2006-11-21 04:39:46 · 8 answers · asked by dwsum41@yahoo.com 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm sorry to hear that hun but i'd have to go with your theory that it's an excuse. However, I DO NOT think you need counselling to be outgoing, just because she is not the girl for you doesn't mean you need to change who you are. I live way the heck north in Canada otherwise i'd look u up ;) Good luck and beeee urself!! :P
2006-11-21 04:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DW - Us girls come in different forms. Some girls would prefer a less outgoing person. I think what you current girlfriend is saying is that you just do not have enough in common to base a good relationship on. If YOU feel; however, that your more introverted style is a problem, then by all means, talk to someone. It does not seem you are too torn up about the break up since you are looking for other girls already.
2006-11-21 12:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you all just aren't 'clicking'. If she's not feeling it, then cut her loose.
I don't think you need counseling, you don't seem all that emotional...or at least not on YA.
I say date around. I wouldn't look for a 'type' of person but do set standards. You never know what you'll find.
I live in GA too but I'm married and pregnant. I just think it's cool that you're from around here. Anyhow, good luck to you.
Now start going out, you can't meet people if you stay inside all the time. Go out with the guys and play pool or hit the clubs. You never know who you'll run into.
2006-11-21 12:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually she is breaking up with you because she is a selfish snot. She wants that superstar stud muffin that will excite her and make her dull boring life seem interesting even though she is the one that is a bore. Find yourself a girl that is quiet and reserved, not one that is a wanna be bad girl. Women that like those alpha male out going party animals are more likely to get bored and sleep around looking for excitement. A girl that likes to cuddle up in front of a TV and watch old movies can be a lot more fun, and a lot more stable.
2006-11-21 12:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun the sooner that you accept what she said the sooner you will be able to go on with your life & stop wasting time with a person that doesn't feel about you the same way that you feel about her.
I understand and i feel like you really love her and you are even willing to change your personality to "TRY" to keep your relationship going. However i agree with you, Its more than that its more than what she is saying.
Don't even try to figure it out hun save yourself the time and hurt just move on.
You don't need to get counseling to be more outgoing etc. You are fine the way that you are. Please don't try to change your personality to make her happy. Or anyone else.
If you do that then you might be constantly changing to make future girlfriends happy. This won't be healthy for you mentally OK.
Have you ever heard.... "There is someone for everyone"
She isn't that someone for you. There is someone out there for you and when you find her or she finds you, you will know because you won't have to make drastic changes she will accept you for you... you are who you are.
2006-11-21 12:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you like your girlfriend or you wanna challenge yourself being with a partner who is very different from you?
I see no point with trying to go out with an outgoing girl when you are shy and find it hard to fit in. Be yourself, And find someone who likes you for being you. Maybe you could start by joining activities and making more friends.
Or just hit the pubs.
2006-11-21 12:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by friedeggy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you want to save this relationship and yet want to meet other girls??? Good luck.
2006-11-21 12:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by Glee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say you continue to be yourself. you can't and won't be able to please everyone. from the sounds of it, you're too good for her so move one and eventually you will find some one who will accept you for who you are and how sociable you want to be.
peace
2006-11-21 12:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by Wonder Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋