Im 180 lbs and 5ft 7inches tall recenently i lost weight which brought me to where i currently am. As a result i haqve strecth marks n my hips and shoulders. I also have spots in my back bcuz of acne or wat ever the hell it is that cuz it. The thing is i dont want my bf to see this espeecially the stretch marks. I tend to cover up after sex or i want to have sex with the light off or even dimmed slightly.
im afraid to ask him who he feels about it cuz i dont want him to lie to me just to let me feel better. I hate feeling this way.
2006-11-21 04:26:09 · 13 answers · asked by brambram87 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is always talking about losing weight himself thats wat makes me feel a bit insecure like he wants me to do the same or he has a problem with a few extra pounds and he is not even fat or anything he is just the right size for his height and age.
2006-11-21 04:41:20 · update #1
if he has a problem with you or your weight i doubt that he would be with you your insecurity is whats going to drive him away not your stretch marks
2006-11-21 04:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, to be so insecure about your body. I don't say this rudely but get over yourself!! Seriously, this is your hang up and not his. If the two of you are in a stable relationship, your stretch marks are nothing to him.
That being said, go slowly and try to be a little more "exposed" each time you have sex. Maybe not cover up for a bit after, and try moving up to sex with the lights on dimly, or with a TV playing or something that gives a soft glow to the room. Eventually you will be more and more comfortable with your body around him and you'll laugh at how silly it was for you to be so insecure.
Good luck, and congrats on losing the weight!
2006-11-21 04:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have some stretch marks from being overweight as well (once 260 pounds, now thankfully 175 and still trying to lose some) so I know how you feel.
It's an awful feeling, like you've gotten this new lease on life but you're still unbearably uncomfortable in your skin. I struggle with it daily.
I was terrified the first time my boyfriend saw me naked in decent light. But I didn't need to be. If your boyfriend really loves you, he's going to love every part of you, even if it's a little stretchy. And if he can't deal with a stretch mark or two, tell him he's gonna have a tough time finding a woman, because most of us have them.
Best wishes!
2006-11-21 04:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by SammityvilleHorror 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldn't regret the way you look are feel. Cause we are all sexy in owere on way. You should maybe go to the doctor to get some cream for it to mak the scars and marks go away. But on top of all that explain to him the reason of you stretch marks and that you are working on it and after all he just might not have a problem with it....... Cause he will still feel the same way about you no matter what.....
2006-11-21 04:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK honey you really need to start loving your self because if you don't love your self how can he even get the chance to love you body? Hey if you feel so bad about it there are lotions out there but the best thing so far is Mederma it worked for me but I looked on google.com and found this site http://www.stretchmarkcure.com/?gclid=CPOjtb3U2IgCFSAeWAodIHiBoQ read then go down to the bottom of the Paige . How to get rid of you stretch marks. click on that and it will tell you more. Hope this helped you.
2006-11-21 04:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by kim806 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have stretch marks from giving birth...I have it on my tummy..real bad...when you look at it..its like freddy kruger had a good time there...matter of fact it looks just like freddys face...I am so shame of my stretch marks I hate it..so I try not to let my guy see me naked..he will get grossed out if he does...but I have to agree with the women on here if he truly loves you then strecth mark will not matter...a REAL man will love you for who you are...good luck
2006-11-21 04:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is better to show it now so that relationship becomes permanent. How long can u avoid exposing ur body to him.
U may like to take some professional help to get rid of the stretch marks etc.
2006-11-21 04:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd say try to feel better about yourself and raise your self-esteem. Do this by joining a club or talking to friends. If this does not work, explain to him and maybe you will see that he doesn't care because he loves you for who you are inside.
2006-11-21 04:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sure every woman(minus the supermodels or the ones who have been surgically enhanced) has felt this same way at one time or another.....trust me your boyfriend probably dosent notice the small things you are worried about...and if he were to see them and his feelings about you changed then he isnt man enough for you......dont worry because men dont worry about our bodies even 1/10th as much as we do....good luck....and oh by the way for the two idiotic men who answerd the question previously...dont let them get to you because i am sure they dont have girlfriends they are probably sitting at home in moms basement planning their next jack off session...a real man will never say the things those dummies said
2006-11-21 04:30:28 · answer #9 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he says he doesnt like your body then forget him, you dont need to be w/ him. But if he really likes you then he will except you. He might not have the body every girl dreams of and u still accept him dont you?
2006-11-21 04:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by MRz.Nels0n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋