Do you have step children or blended family ? What is it like?

Answer 1

I have a stepson in addition to my own two and, therefore, a blended family. Unfortunately, abandonment at the hands of his biological mother has left him emotionally stunted, and he has had some trouble making appropriate attachments to the other members of the family. However, through regular one-on-one and family interaction (slow and steady wins the race) he has really come around. I won't lie; it can be difficult beyond belief to raise someone else's child. But if you can learn to identify your kids' individual and collective needs and deal with them accordingly, you'll come to understand that having a blended family is really not all that different from having a regular nuclear family. Extra parents (his mom, her dad) can pose extra trouble and can seem like they are running interference a lot of the time, but remember - this is YOUR family. Love and patience, hon. THAT'S the name of the game...ANY game. G-d speed.

Answer 2

Yes... :-) to both. What's it like? It's like family. Sometimes you get along great and other times you don't. The difference seems to be that when you don't get along with your "real" family, it's ok, mentally you know they're still family, but when you don't get along with the step-family, you tend to view them as outsiders or intruders. If you can somehow recognize that and defeat that mentality, you can succeed in the relationship. I grew up with step-sisters and as an adult now have step-children. It take work in both situations. As the parent of step children, just realize that you are not there as a "replacement" for the absent parent. You are you and leave the disciplining to the biological parent -- having said that however, there must be ground rules... you are not to be walked all over either. As a step-sibling, just realize that they are in the same situation you are in... there can be a GREAT ally in that person. The only person or people that truly can say they know how you feel. Again, however, there must be ground rules. Build on the plusses... don't focus on the negative. Whatever you feed will grow. Plants, animals, children............ feelings. Feed the positive and it will grow.

Answer 3

I have a step-son who doesn't live with us but my husband has two step-children. It is difficult at times. They are still pretty young but they still say hurtful things which offends and hurts my husband where he will say things like "they're your children, not mine." It is something that the whole family has to work through together and have patience with one another. As I told him, do not take offense if they say something that hurts you. Just explain to them that you will love them no matter what they or do or say to you.

Answer 4

I have 1 step sister- I like her
I have 2 step brothers- I could do with out- They are spoiled, mean, take advantage of my mom and their dad. Make their dad feel bad about getting a divorce and marring my mom.
So over all it's alright but I'd like to slap sense into my step brothers but we all know that will never happen

Answer 5

Yes, I have a stepson, and it was really hard at first, but as he has gotten older it has gotten better.
On the reverse side, my husband is the stepfather to 2 of my children and he has loved them like they were his natural children and wants to adopt them.

Answer 6

You'd have to ask my husband and daughter. I am the mother but my husband is the step-father. They love each other but they had to learn to.

Answer 7

I have step siblings, They are just the same as my normal siblings, annoying... but i love them just the same

Answer 8

It is not religious or spiritual