My next door has the cutest little 7 year old daughter that is a little on the chubby side. The mother calls her daughter all kinds of fat humiliating names in front of all of the neighborhood kids. The little girl get so embarassed that she starts to cry and has very low self esteem. The mother takes good care of the child and keeps her well dressed she just verbally puts her down and makes her feel terrible. The girl has a hard time making friends and always has her head down looking so sad. I tried talking to the mother and trying to point out the error of her ways but all she does is tell me to shut up and mind my own business and threatens to beat me with her personal collection of whips and chains. Is there anything that I can do? Or should I just shut up and mind my own business??
2006-11-21 04:19:28 · 24 answers · asked by flushing06 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I say you take your own personal collection of whips and chains and beat her to the punch!
Take her out in the front yard and beat her in front of all the little neighborhood kids and show her what's what!!
I bet she'll learn her lesson about calling her daughter names then!
Good luck!
2006-11-21 05:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That "mother" is verbally abusing that child. She is doing the equivalent of throwing acid on that child's internal message board. If she won't listen to your attempts, whenever possible, let the child know she is beautiful, worthy and you are there for her whenever she needs help. Then call Child Protective Services and report this woman. If you get nowhere there, call your local social service office and don't stop til you get some results. People wonder why children are so messed up these days!!!!
2006-11-21 04:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by RBRN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have already tried to talk to her and that isn't going to work, I would call DHS because she does not take care of her child because she is nicely dress doesn't mean that she takes care of her she is being abused emotionally. She is being scared for life. That little girl is either going to grow up fat or going to starve herself because of her emotional abuse and that is how it starts it could even get physical because she has threatend you. Hopefully DHS will take it to court and they will make the mom and child go to counseling together, who knows you may have saved this child's life! Emotional abuse is Abuse that effects the rest of your life how you get along with others friends co workers ect. Most likely the mom was emotional abused as well it usually is a cycle that won't stop until they get help. If you don't report it, it won't stop. The little girl won't lose the weight because her mom is scaring her and she might start to lose it in her teen years when she out grows her chubby stage but then she is emotional scared for life. If DHS doesn't do anything just keep reporting everything you see and eventually they will step in if they don't the first time. Save the life of a child by one single act of kindness.
2006-11-21 06:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That woman is awful, she is verbally abusive and should have her a$$ kicked. That little girl will grow up all f%$&ed up and it will be her fault. She does this because SHE'S not happy with herself, she shouldn't do that to someone she loves or came from her womb! OMG! Anyway, have you talk to the little girl? I would pull her aside and be her friend, is her dad around? Tell her father, if not tell me where she lives and I'll have to have a talk with her. I've worked with kids for a long time, they are so pure and so special. I can't believe she's taking the flower and making it wilt. GRRRRRR, ask her if she's up for an a$$ whopping! And when you do tell her to stop it and she tells you to mind your business, tell her it is YOUR business because the entire world can hear your HATEFULLNESS! Good luck!
2006-11-21 04:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by GiGi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you can to make the little girl feel better about herself and build her confidence, since her mother obviously doesn't do this. Let her know she can talk to you and compliment her on things. Be a good example for her.
You tried to help the mother but since she isn't taking your advice...focus on helping the daughter, just be careful when you are around the mother.
2006-11-21 04:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to worry, This women is distroying her child. She must also have low self esteem! Talk to the father (if there is one in the house) And try to talk to the little girl. Take her for a walk(if the mother will let you) and be her friend!
2006-11-21 04:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kellie R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i recognize, and that i completely agree. incredibly infants. i became in a shop the different day as quickly as I heard a WHACK! and somewhat female crying. I ran to assist with my buddies, because of the fact we've been on a procuring holiday and concept some undesirable little youngster had have been given harm or something had fallen on her, inspite of the undeniable fact that it became a mom who had slapped her newborn. And the the girl mentioned to my ultimate mate Michelle: "What? Mummy did no longer faucet you somewhat once you have been a foul youngster?" We have been bowled over! I mean, the girl in the back of the counter (she is going to our college and became in basic terms in 6th form) went all faded and upset. i think so sorry for the youngsters who're being hit via their mothers and fathers. It would not help in any respect - it purely teaches the youngster violence is nice and makes the youngster unhappy.
2016-10-17 08:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take up her mother's duty. In your own way make her feel beautiful and adorable by telling her that she is. Also tell her that her mom doesn't mean the mean words she says to her. Even if she does let her understand they are not true. if the situation is very bad get help for the girl. bless you!
2006-11-21 04:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by fafayo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring it to the attention of the girls school counselor and school system's child psychologist. They might have an answer.
If you can, maybe video tape an episode of it happening. Videos are good in proving what you see and hear. You never know, with that type of verbal abuse, there might be hidden physical abuse going on.
You would be out of line to refer it to child welfare since there is no evidence of physical abuse. In fact, I dont think it would not be your place to approach the child and talk with them about it.
I think the best approach would be to go to the child;s school counselor and school system child psychologist. They will know what to do.
2006-11-21 04:27:08 · answer #9 · answered by Bob 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's NOT YOUR BUSINESS stay out of it. Just mind your business, there might be alot more that you dont know leading up to those comments, such as the fact that maybe the mom had been trying for years to slim down her daugher to a healthy weight and this is her more agressive yet necessary option. Mind your own family and your own business. I say that "trying" to be polite
2006-11-21 04:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by Travis S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋