want 2 learn Martel arts but which one?I'm quite small want 2b able 2defend myself if i got in a bad situation

Question

i did basic self defence but my brother quickly showed me how useless it was. saying i'm too small, weak and light to be able to defend myself. (i know he was only trying to put reality on my lack of skills for my own safty)

in a real situation i would run and ive been in situation where ive had to. but i want to be able to defend myself if there is no other way to get away.

Answer 1

Wing Chun kung-fu: Like most of the stylized kung-fu systems out there they get caught up in the who's instead of the why's and how's. The fixed positions and the inability to expand out of their systems fighting position leaves it vunerable to take downs, angled attacks, multiple person situations, and takes too long to implement the ideas to practical use.

Taekwondo: You're represented by the biggest morons out there WTF and ATA. These orginizations are out for your money, boosting their prestige, and brain washing you into believing that there is a purpose to what they are doing. All the while, WTF specifically, handing you this crock of **** on how long taekwondo has been in existance. Because of their predjudice outlook toward the karate/Japanese culture in which it originated from they've developed a sport based on a game played over 1000 years ago and make people think they're actually learning how to defend themselves. They refuse to look toward proper training for fighting effectively taking them out of the true realm of martial arts. Now there are some fairly solid TKD orginizations out there but they're not represented by the vast majority thus undermining any attempt at validating their system.

Kempo: Like saying car, there is no true identity for this system of martial arts. Are we Japanese, American or Chinese. Who give a rats ***. Most systems have tried their damndest (is that really a word?) to validate a fairly effective group of fighting techniques while others get bogged down in the muck of trying to lay claim to some wierd Chinese Shaolin authenticity. Kenpo/Kempo has been represented over many years as some of the hardest hitting, most ferocious fighters in existance. There was a reason they became popular but because of greeed they watered it down to a state where you'd be lucky to find an instructor that wouldn't get you killed in your first encounter on the street. Now a majority of kempo guys are fat, out of shape bastards who are more interested in getting your check book then getting in shape. They have gone the way of TKD but fortunately most schools are changing for the better and maybe in the next decade or so they can rise to the prestige they deserve.

Shaolin Kung-fu/Wu Shu: Doesn't exist people it's ******* myth, as a martial arts you are learning to be a ******* gymnast/ballet dancer. ******* stage performers are all they are. If you like that **** fine but stop licking the balls of these so called Chi masters as if most their stuff wasn't parlor tricks and simple athletic acrobatic techniques. Simple and to the point.

Other systems of Kung-fu: if you aren't training in modern ways then you're not training in Kung-fu. Systems were not to be mired down to tradition they were supposed to change with the time, passing on techniques that worked and adding new ones on to make their respective kwoons "bad ***". Unfortunately you've all seen too many Jet Li and Jackie Chan circle jerk movies and believe half that **** is real. It's the ******* movies people get over it.

Judo: ******* turning into a bunch of pansies I swear, they outlaw so many moves we're soon going to be left with nothing but a pussified sumo match where only pushing is allowed.

Jujitsu: The problem here is identity. Like so many arts Jujitsu wears many masks and covers many different areas of grappling. Some Jujitsu systems look like modern MMA events while others are so bogged down in theoretical **** that they have no comprehension on what works and what doesn't work. Bottom line is if you haven't done it against a fully resisting opponent you'll have no idea if it'lll really work. Most of these practitioners get tied down to tradition and never question for a second their "masters" teaching because they've seen him/her throw some cooperative ***** around. Find Jujitsu that works people.

Brazillian Jujitsu: Unfortunately for BJJ schools around the world they're represented by a bunch of newbie snot nose punks. I've seen the way they teach classes and it's a psychologists dream world. A bunch of Males trying to establish a level of Alpha dominance and force their peers to submit and thus establishing a pecking order in the microcosm that is. Two type of guys come out of these gyms. The guys that learn decent technique because they put their ego asided establish a good level of respect for one another and learn and the fuckers who develope a bully mentality and never get past their own ego. There's nothing wrong with pride until the pride gets in the way of true learning. I saw over a dozen BJJ fighters go into matches against 'inferior' styles because they saw Royce Gracie do it in the UFC. Unfortunately most of those guys forgot they were doing a sport and the Gracies had been accepting challenges for decades before the UFC came around, their style was designed in neutralizing the mono stylistic stand up fighter who believed they couldn't be taken down. The guys that get mired into the BJJ is all you need to know get caught up into the same downfalls as all the other systems that eventually failed due to their inability to change. The minute you don't fear and give respect to another style is the day you're going to leave yourself open to defeat.

SAMBO: Got caught up in nationalistic pride and failed to branch out beyond the neccessity that developed in the first place. Look we can do throws and all kinds of joint locks but we won't choke people out. How much sense did that make? Fortunately it has made the changes neccessary but sport sambo has not changed with the time and will not succeed until it gets over a lot of the rules that limits it's capablities. Most sambo guys turned to jujitsu, judo and wrestling, you rarely see a pure samboist anymore. Then you have that group that got caught up in the "combat" aspect of sambo. Take a look at the Jujitsu section of this and find out what we think about theoretical martial artist.

Ninjitusu: God what a bunch of freaks. Can this **** work, I guess so but whats your ******* goal, you want to be a power ranger or a ******* Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle. Seriously, what's the point in doing Ninjitsu? **** Ninjitsu up its ******* *** I have no respect for the art so I might as well end this **** right here. I here the Taijitsu hand to hand can be quite effective but the other stuff is queer eye for the straight guy gay.

Aikido: WTF, artful form of evasion that's all this is. Great ******* concept but stop saying you're a martial art, you're not. If you're not going to engage the opponent and you're a bunch of whining pacifistic cultist seeking enrichment then fine, go eat your tofu and circle jerk in the corner and leave the real martial artist to the real people. Don't get me wrong I love some of this **** but if you like most of the aspects and want to learn how to defend yourself find an Aikijujitsu school that does some level of sparring and leave this **** to the ball room dancers.

Muay Thai: Muay Thai is not kickboxing people, it's what they do but it's not kickboxing. I'm sick of hearing this ****. Muay Thai teaches more than sparring in the ring. Great form of fighting terrible for self-defense. What's that? You heard me, specifically for guys. After you elbow somebody in the face and knee the crap out of their body what are you going to tell the cops "oops?". God no, if you want to learn self-defense take some Japanese Jujitsu/Combat SAMBO stuff, at least if the theoretical stuff doesn't work you can beat the crap out of them afterwards.

Kickboxing: It's a ******* sport people get over it.

It's been said before but let me summarize it for you. If you are at a school and you're happy so be it. If you want to look for an effective system that you can learn how to fight you must learn stand-up and grappling. If you want to learn self-defense make sure there's some level of effective sparring that allows you to attempt some of the theoretical ideas. For those stand up guys that think they can't be taken down I hope a grappler comes along and drops you on your head. For those grapplers who think they can take anybody down I hope you get KTFO. For those of you who don't spar and think your **** really works I hope you get mugged and figure it out.

Answer 2

Any martial art will give you self defence moves but the best for a woman is street art defence. Let me explain, there are two parts on the male body that when hit will render the person useless. Firstly the gonads, this is very easy to hit and he will be unable to move for a while and giving you the opertunity to scream and run. Secondly the eyes, asharp and severe poke in the eyes is enough to stop any man in his tracks and if he cant see you he cant hurt you. If he comes from behind bring your foot up backwards into the gonads and then turn and poke in the eyes, if it is a frontal attack then kick forward and again poke in the eyes. Practice these on your brother,but please be careful with him as we blokes are fragile in those areas, I know I am an instructor!

Answer 3

Ignore what Hood said- that was obviously written by someone who thought his own style was the best, most perfect system for everyone everywhere. That system does not exist...
For smaller people I usually recommend 2 different things- Aikido and Shotokan Karate. These are 2 very different styles and they tend to complement each other if you want to learn both.
Aikido is a system of defensive movements meant to use the opponent's force against him- the harder they punch (for example) the harder they fall when you move away and "guide" them to the ground. It is a defensive minded style, utilizing a variety of circular movements, traps, and painful (trust me) locking techniques. No matter how big the opponent is, a wrist lock hurts just as bad.
Shotokan Karate was founded by a man who was (by most accounts) only 5'4" tall. ALl of the stances are held VERY low, and almost all movements- punches, kicks as well as simple movements- are done from a very low base soas to maximize your power. Shotokan is based on typical Karate techniques of blocking, kicking and punching, though throws, locks and grappling are incorperated. This style of Karate will help you maximize your potential from a smaller standpoint.
Hope this helps...

Answer 4

ur more built 4 a soft style... like aikido.. if u didint know what i ment....but it til take a long time 2 get good ( going by hous not weeks... cas sum ppl train 5 hours a day 5 times a week and sum 2 hours twice a week.... like me...oi... i need 2 train mer... ill call sensei 2maro and c bout trainin all day) but ne ways scince ur a small femal ppl will underestamate u... and scince ur a small female u can b brutal... and like crack nuts n stuff...u put sum skill (n smarts) behind that and ur set.... lol im with ray.. (is the the guy who was with spider?) but im laughin cas i had 2 sign a contract (it just said im not 2 teach ppl thisstuffand not 2 show off.. and i cant sue if i get hurt tho) and i pay 60 4 rank testing ( they say so this encourages you 2 get it right the first time....) but ey the monthly fee is only 50.... if u g 2 a tkd place ur lookin at over 100... you should stilllike yup said learn strikes.. but i think ur more built 4 soft than hard

Answer 5

what "hood" posted is pretty funny and actually pretty good, but where does it leave you? any martial art should give you a fighting advantage over an untrained thug. i'd say try some free lessons at gyms until you find the right one.

i like kyokushin for the reason that i get used to taking hits without any gloves or pads. it doesn't scare me. but out of all, i respect boxers. they're the best punchers, bar none. if a couple sharp hits to someone's nose doesn't end it, you're probably in to more than you bargained for.

as a big advantage, most boxing gyms are for real, whereas to find a good traditional MA school is a challenge.

Answer 6

what hood said except to add the reality that if you are looking for self defence then learning to fight unarmed is not the best way to do it.

Realistically any attacker that you can see and have a confrontation with (especially since you are a girl and not likely to get into a "***** my man ain't your baby's daddy!" fight in a bar or at all outside the wonderfull world of crap talk shows) is going to be armed.

Your best bet would in fact be to focus more on a weapon that you can carry like a gun, if state law permits you to get a carry permit, a knife (but there are legal implications) or a small metal baton like a jutte. You should supplement any weapons training with unarmed fighting, but realize that mankind made weapons to overcome the natural advantages of creatures and people that were bigger than them naturally.

Weapons are about self-defence unarmed fighting is about beating someone's *** for ego, for sport or to be a jackhole and minimally for self-defence.

consider: could your brother have beaten you if you had a knife and could have severely cut him (especially if you learn filipino systems of knife fighting)? likely not. would he have even tried if you moved with it not like a tiny girl but like a trained knife-fighter? probably not. Of course it is your brother, but you get the point.

Answer 7

If you're looking for simple, effective method, look for an instructor teaching Krav Maga or a Filipino martial art (you might find it called "Kali", "Escrima", or "Arnis").

Both methods are intended for street effective fighting/self-defense, not necessarily sport. Krav Maga was developed for fast, effective training of people to defend themselves. Filipino martial arts (the non-flowery variations) are straight-forward and also teach you to utilize weapons and objects that are everywhere.

Just remember.... REAL effective self-defense does not have rules. If you're attacked (especially being a small statured woman), anything is fair game. Cheating and fighting dirty to win is acceptable.

P.S. - Someone give Hood 12 a hug or something. Seems like you've got a chip on your shoulder or something, Friend.

Answer 8

Best advice I can give you is to watch a few classes at different schools . Talk to the instructors about your needs . Watch out for blackbelt factories though , the schools that promise you you'll be a blackbelt in two years . Some styles that are effective are : CHA-3 kenpo , kajukenbo , wing chun , jeet kun do , ju jutsu , and kali (kali is mostly weapons but their unarmed techniques are very good ." spidertiger440" had some good advice about school selection also .

Answer 9

JUDO is the way forward! i have done this for many years and have only ever had to use it in real life 3x and it worked amazingly. dont worry im small too, the smaller the better as your quicker than others and your centre of body gravity is lower than theres. its honestly great. its really good and does everything you could possibly want, armlock, strangles, chokes etc. try it you will be amazed!

Answer 10

I think a striking style will be best for you. That will allow you to use speed to compensate for your lack of size & strength. Women usually are more flexible than men & have relatively more lower body strength. A style that emphasizes kicking may be best for you. Tae Kwon Do, Tang So Do & northern Shaolin Temple Boxing are allin that catagory. Find a good school in your area & good luck.

Answer 11

It really depends on what it is you want to accomplish in defending yourself. If you want to learn effective ways of standing up and defending yourself I suggest Muai-Thai as it is a very prov en martial art and incorporates elbows and knees into its main teachings. If you want the ability to put someone out fast and hurt them I suggest Kr av Maga which has been used by Israeli special forces for years. If you want to defend yourself from sexual predators I especially recommend Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. One of the most dangerous places for someone with no training to be is in a BJJ practitioner's guard, which also happens to be on your back with your legs spread. From this position you can put the person to sleep rather fast with the right training. All in all I recommend a mixture of Kick boxing and BJJ.