My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for 6 years. We have two sons together but he has cheated on me in the past and even had another child with this girl he cheated on me with 2 years ago. He had repeatedly messed with her behind my back. I broke up with him in July and he went to live with her and I feel he will always have feelings for her since they do have a child together. As crazy as it sounds he and I agreed to get back together. He says he hasn't talked to her and would never cheat again and doesn't even know her number or where she has recently moved too. I dont know if I should trust him or assume it will happen when and just wait to see.
2006-11-21 04:04:04 · 14 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am in a similiar situation. My boyfriend have been together off and on 3 years, i was pregnant but lost the baby. he has a son by another woman. he cheated on my( and probably still is) and might be the father of her new baby. Please... im not the best to give advice on this because obviously i am still here with him.. but yes he will always have feelings for her. Other women for the most part have no respect for the relationship a man is in. All she cares about is being with him.. because of whatever and she can use that baby to manipulate him to keep coming back to him. Any little thing you do will cause him to doubt his choice to be with you and make him run back to you... they always think the grass is greener on the other side.. some how you have to find the strength to leave him. eventually he will miss what he cant have and make an honest decision on where to be.
2006-11-21 04:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by kjphillips_hines 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your a fool and you deserve what you get. Your the type of girl that gets walked all over and cheated on by guys and then says poor me, and guys are dogs. This guy is a dog but your a puppy for following him.
Grow up; why did you have TWO kids with him? That's irresponsible. Lets see, he cheats on you all of the time, has children with other girls, lives with them until he wears out his welcome and then talks you into taking him back; wow that's magical.
He is going to cheat on you again; with this girl and with others. If your dumb enough to take him back then he knows he can get away with it. If you think out of the blue he's now going to be faithful, true and loyal, I have a big Orange bridge in San Francisco that I'll sell you real cheap; for cash.
Your teaching your kids that it's o.k. for this kind of behavior and you and he should be ashamed.
Grow up, dump him and move on. You have a lot to learn and your kids deserve the best. Its' about them, not your insecurities in having to have some idiot lowlife in your life. I hope you do the right thing. and please use protection; you have enough on your plate and you need to get things in order.
2006-11-21 04:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat, always a cheat. He has no respect for you or her. He will keep bouncing back & forth forever because this is okay with you.
He's treating you like a doormat. As Dr. Phil says, " We teach people how to treat us." He has learned that you will always take him back no matter what he does.
Be a mother to your kids & walk away from him. Your kids should be #1 priority. They don't deserve this unstable situation.
2006-11-21 04:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a good person, he will always have feelings for you.
I hope is paying child support and helping care for the sons and his daughter with that other woman.
Be careful, I wouldn't trust him. If he cheated once, he probably will do it again.
2006-11-21 04:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you're saying he claims he will no longer see the mother of his child, and that's a good thing? Isn't he paying child support? Isn't he involved in his child's life? If he doesn't cheat with her, he'll probably cheat with someone else. Clearly he lacks maturity, self-control and any sense of family values. What a guy.
2006-11-21 04:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
britt, u have two sons u need to worry about, let's try not to worry for another. if the guy keeps going back it would only bring more drama into your lives, trust me i'm a guy. best thing for u to do is focus on your two kids and i'm sure things will turn out to be great. good luck.
2006-11-21 04:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Henry P 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quit wasting you time on this Boy.
Find a mature responsible MAN who will care for you,
make a commitment to you, marry you and adopt
the children such that they will be afforded legal protections.
You are making a huge investment when you take on
a man in a long term relatinship....You need to choose carefully..
2006-11-21 04:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a difficult one, he may never have feelings for her but yet he might, its one of them only u probably know if you trust him or not, and its hard to understand him not being in touch if they have a child together. u do need to be wary but if you trust him its up to u but make sure you have your eyes wide open, with you having two kids together its good to stay together its hard to bring up kids with their dad p/t in their life. although that is not a reason to stay together. take it one day at a time.
2006-11-21 04:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by rachie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if he will have *feelings* for that woman, but one thing I'm sure of - he will find someone to mess around with soon enough. You would be a fool to expect otherwise.
2006-11-21 04:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to win your trust back, I cant belive you went back with him, he will always see her and know where she is because of the kid. If you are already with him then deal with it but be careful, once a cheater always a cheater
2006-11-21 04:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋