My GF broke up with me. She says that she still loves me and still cares about me but right now she needs the space... she doesn't want a BF right now. We've been going out for a year and a half... which is long but not so long.... but see... shes been so busy lately... when she finally found free time i was happy because now i'll get to spend some time with her. I haven't really spent any time with her for about a month or two now....
I don't know what to do. She tells me that me and her are not over. When she gets her head screwed on tight, that she'll come back to me... she still loves me... but i'm still so hurt. I don't know if this is normal. Is it?
I just don't know anymore. Throughtout the whole, her being busy thing, i was week at times but mostly strong... i know we'll see each other again... and do what we did when she wasn't so busy... i was so lonely at times... and then she gets rid of me... I don't know how to feel. Sad or mad? Numb? Should i be hurt or jus wait?
2006-11-21 04:03:32 · 9 answers · asked by X Anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just don't know... i'm so confused... and i don't know what really is my question... i'm so confuzed
2006-11-21 04:04:06 · update #1
Some of u left really good advice... i don't know who too choose so try voting on it... Much Thanks to all of you who gave me great answers.
2006-11-21 14:33:18 · update #2
If you really love her then you will wait and still keep in contact.But on the other hand you can go out and meet new friends.
2006-11-21 04:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it sounds like she's not sure what she wants right now and she seems to be telling you certain things just to keep you there - just in case. And that's totally not fair to you. Sh can't keep stringing you along just because she is unsure about her situation right now.
If I were you, I would try to muster up the courage to tell her tha you think that you two need to just try a break for a bit - and by break I mean no contact for a certain amount of time. That would probably give the two of you some time apart to seriously consider what you want from this relationship. Try it for a week and see what happens. Maybe you'll realize that she's walking all over you and that you deserve better - or maybe you two will realize that you are meant to be together.
It's like that old saying: "If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it's yours forever. If it doesn't, it was never meant to be".
2006-11-21 04:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard this BS before...She found somebody else shes interested in. Sooo...lick your wounds for a couple of weeks. Then go find a new F**kbuddy. Cause the best way over the last 1 is to find a new 1.
2006-11-21 04:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age.....If your gf is so busy, this may be the start of her real life. Life is busy. You need to get a hobby or find something to do for yourself. No one likes a guys that just sits and waits around for her. We like someone who is a strong person with something to contribute to the relationship. Don't let her always call the shots, it you are available to go out, great, if not don't change your plans if she doesn't do the same.
You can feel all of the above. It is normal. Start hiking, biking, running, just find something to do other than waiting for her. Make plans with other friends. Everyone needs space...some just need a lot more than others. It's all about the give and take. Good Luck.
2006-11-21 04:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by vkkesu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sort of thing does confuse. if a couple loves each other and there is problems you talk and sort things out. i dont think she will be back. to many say this in relationships thinking they make it easier to break up. hoping youll get use to being without them. i think you should move on from this. read tips on love and relationships to help you more on this site
2006-11-21 04:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by yummy _ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your feelings are totaly understandable. you really need to tell her how you feel..ask her where you stand. although shes having a hard time too its not fair to keep you hanging on to the realtionship like this.
2006-11-21 04:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should try getting over it and look for other people to surround yourself with. Go and mingle, you will get over her and maybe perhaps find someone else new
2006-11-21 04:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is to short.I dint know how old you are.you have to be more independent, if she knows you will be there she will keep doing this,tell her you cant wait all your life and go out and meet new people,
2006-11-21 04:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She found another dude and wants him now. That's the breaks. You have to build a bridge and GET OVER IT.
2006-11-21 04:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by outlaw_tattoo_biker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋