2006-11-21 03:59:46 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
big d, cold turkey for me is the best way. however, they're products out there that can help, nicotine patches etc. but if your'e trying to conceive then cold tukey would be the way to go. besides if she really wanted to have a baby with you then quiting somking shouldn't be anything.
2006-11-21 04:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by Henry P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an ex smoker and I gave up at the beginning of my pregnancy (im 38 weeks now) but I had support and help to do so, its not an easy thing to give up, that goes for any addiction, and im sure she really does want to, for her health and the babies. Maybe you could both go to a stop smoking support group and get help from the doctors, positive reinforcement is key, not negativity as she will just feel alienated and find it harder, and if she falls of the no smoking wagon tell her how well shes done so far and encourage her to keep going. I wish you the best of luck and hope you go on to have a happy healthy baby and a strong relationship. Kudos to you for caring so much about your baby and girlfriend.
2016-03-12 21:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I've never been a smoker, so no I don't have personal experience, however... it seems pretty simple to me. You have to just decide to stop. I know it's hard, I know people have said it's the hardest thing they've ever done, but come on, she knows she can do it! It's the same as people who are addicted to food, or drugs, or alcohol, or spending. Addiction is addiction.
She needs to have the will-power. And when the cravings happen, she needs to expect them and know how to deal with it, whether it's to get on the treadmill, or cook, or read, or eat, or just simply have a mantra that she repeats. And every day that she doesn't smoke, it will get easier.
All you can do as her partner, is to keep encouraging and supporting her. Understand that she's gonna have mood swings (which you'll need to be prepared for during the pregnancy anyway). If she is ok with you taking extreme measures to help her, then do that; take her car keys when she's having a craving, hide her wallet.
2006-11-21 04:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I smoked for 10 years and it is a difficult thing to quit. In order to quit successfully, you need to quit because it is what you want - not what someone else wants.
Here is a strategy that worked for me:
1. I saw my doctor who gave me a prescription and some helpful advice. Quitting smoking can cause depression and seeing my doctor was a huge step in the right direction.
2. I carried a bottle of water with me, especially when I was in situations when I normally smoked such as when I was driving. Drinking water was a simple way to replace the hand to mouth habit without adding extra calories to my diet.
3. I had a support network of friends who knew I was quitting and were very helpful. When I would have a bad day, I could confide in them and they'd encourage me to keep going.
4. My husband was very supportive. He still tells me how proud he is of me and that makes a big difference. Part of the reason I haven't started smoking again is because I don't want to disappoint him.
I wish you and your girlfriend luck. But one important thing is that she can't do this only because it is what you want. She has to do it because she is determined to make it work. My husband still smokes and I try not to nag him. If he isn't ready to quit - he isn't going to quit successfully. It has to be his choice, not mine. I think he is working up to it and someday he will be ready. When he is, I look forward to supporting him just as much as he supported me.
2006-11-21 04:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show her disturbing pictures of how the baby could be affected if she doesn't quit. Take her to classes and seminars on how pregnant women should care for themselves if need be. If you're going to have a baby with that woman, then it's your responsibility as well as hers to ensure that the baby is healthy.
Good luck
2006-11-21 04:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by dajyde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has to do it their own way. i finally just gave it up but most people need motivation. she obviously can't have a baby while smoking. so if she really wants one she will have to stop. you can try making her donate money to a jar every time she smokes. it has to be a large but reasonable amount or else it won't do any good. you should keep it locked up too.
2006-11-21 04:04:53 · answer #6 · answered by rob_starnes01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hide them or something any thing for the baby. or sit down and tell her what she's doing. if she doesn't stop smoking tell her you can' have a baby like this. or tell her to put the cigarette in her mouth just don't light it. it will make it sem like she's smoking it. my muim tried it and it worked for her and she's been smoking for over 20 years. or go through rehab that always works
2006-11-21 04:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by littlered102012 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mum had 2 sessions of accupunture and hasn't smoked since!! (she smoked for 29 years) she can't even stand the smell of it now. It may be a little bit expensive but it will be worth it! good luck
2006-11-21 04:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by lucy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you aren't interested in having a baby with birth defects. And how much you love kissing an ashtray.
2006-11-21 04:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw out her ciggies and all related stuff...ashtrays, lighters, etc.
Get the book "The Easy Way to Quit Smoking".....it's GREAT! Once she reads this, it will be a lot easier to quite.
Be supportive and encouraging.
2006-11-21 04:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋