First girlfriend. Been together 1 month. Great chemistry. She said she loves me and "isn't just throwing words around." I said I love her. The other night she was real asertive, drove over an hour to see me( we live 1 1/2 apart) and said she had a great time. I wrote her an e-mail the following morning, expressing my feelings and how I usually don't feel this about a person. She wrote back a couple days later saying that "Ive been too clingy and she wants to break up." She was the first one to say that she loved me and she said it a lot of times. What do you make of this?
2006-11-21 03:59:41 · 15 answers · asked by DN1503 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's either scared that things are going too fast, or she got another offer. Notice I didn't say "better" offer. She seems confused and doesn't know what she wants.
The best advice I can give you is to remember the saying about if you love something.
2006-11-21 04:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if this girl is wishwashy to me, one minute she tells you that she loves even though you have been dating one month then she tells you in an e-mail that you are too clingy. In my opinion I don't think she really knows what she wants or what kind of guy she is looking for, she could be playing you and you would never know it. I am sure her feeling were genuine when she said she had a great time, but I think the relationship is still not fully grown where she can make a proposition like that, without knowing all the fact and knowing something about you. If it were me I would talk to her find out what is going on, if you e-mail her that would be good or if you have her phone number that would be great, having her come to see you would be even better, maybe then you can talk to her and you guys work what the problem and if she decides to stay then, you are ok, if she leaves then apparently it was not meant to be. You will only know this if you talk to her.
2006-11-21 12:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's immature and unsure what she wants at this point in her life. Proclaiming love within a month of starting a relationship is a bit soon for most of us. She may have found someone else to fall in love with as things seem to develop quickly with this girl. So...for whatever reasons she has expressed that she doesn't want to be a couple. I'd respect her wishes and get on with my life if I were you. Respect yourself and do what is in your best interest.
2006-11-21 12:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a game so #1 back off #2 tell her you feel the same / girl hate that# 3 stop email her this will show youre in control she will come around just be cool dont tell her you love her just say youre alright nothing more
this way you are in control if she call you up to go out say wow i like to but i got a date maybe later when i not so busying this is being cool good luck
2006-11-21 12:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move along! Its only a month, cut your losses and move on! I had a guy do me the same way (minus the I love you part). He started the relationship, got close really fast, etc and just decided one ady that he couldnt handle it. It is prolly something going on with her that you dont know about. Let it go. She isnt worth it evidently!
XOXOXO
~Calicohottie
2006-11-21 12:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by calicohottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she throws the "I love you" words around too easily. I, also, think she was just leading you on. You were only together a month. I'd get over her.
2006-11-21 12:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by Holly W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you say went down the way it went down, then sweetie, "be too clingy" and let her go. That's nutz!!! You could have been a rebound, but either way, she did you a favor. She sounds like the type to have consentual sex with you and then holler rape. LEAVE HER ALONE!!!!
2006-11-21 12:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by jeanettebrivera 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uncerten she is i would say, give her some time, you know the saying you don't know what you have untill you lost it
girl like that can be a hand full in the long run, but it you love here then stick with it till you can't take no more
2006-11-21 12:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on from her she is one of those types that has probably said that to many guys. be careful with who you say it to. dont be in a rush to say this. take yr time the next time around. read tips on dating, love and relationships to help you more on this site
2006-11-21 12:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by yummy _ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably, in the 2 days found someone better. or she just stayed with u for fun. Sorry about that
2006-11-21 12:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by lalousa12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋