my husbands mother is really hard to get along with. She ALWAYS thinks she is right when it come to really dumb things or anything for that matter....now about raising my kids: i have a schedual i try to keep them on it but when she comes home from her work (truck driver) she feeds my 5 month old son every 1-2 hours(and he is feed every 4 hours) and bathes him when she wants(his bath is at 8 pm every night) and does when she wants with him. I try and try to tell her to please respect me and my husbands schedual that he is on...but her excuss is that "im the grandma i can do what i want with him" im going crazy i dont know what to do I NEED HELP!!!
2006-11-21 03:57:52 · 4 answers · asked by allymay04 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and yes we are living together...but we are REALLY TRYING to move out!!!
2006-11-21 04:07:43 · update #1
Your life sounds just like mine 5 years ago.. I lived at my mother in laws with my now ex-husband and 2 kids. She would always want to raise my kids her way and would want to be grandma and mother both. I used to ask my ex to talk to her but she never changed and I didn't want to make trouble in the family but....they are in the end your children! You have to tell her it is your home also and your rules that they aren't just visiting. If she doesn't like or respect your wishes than keep the children away from her. When she comes home take the kids and keep them with you or leave the room with them when she comes around. I did it for 6 months and finally she realized the mistakes she made. On the other hand where is your husband during all this, it is after all his mother he should be the one to address the issue. You are just the daughter in law and it is hard enough to fit in and get along...he should be the one to say..."MOM, they are our children and we want to raise them so butt out. In the end you have to be strong and set the limits.
2006-11-21 06:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by tcy114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! It sounds like you are living together. If so, you may not be able to get her to stop. If you are living on your own, and pay all your own bills, putting a stop to her would be easy. Either she abide by the rules, or she doesn't see little Tommy. Your husband will need to be on your side. You can't fight the inlaws alone.
But if you are living in her home, you may not have much choice. Just set that as priority #1, to be out on your own.
If she is living with you, then you will need to just lay down the rules to her. If she doesn't like it, she can just go live on her own.
2006-11-21 12:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by Momma Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have your husband say something to his mother. It would sound better coming from him and I think she will listen. Regardless if she is grandma those are your kids and in the end you have to deal with your children. Put your foot down and make some rules and consequences
2006-11-21 12:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Bantuknots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she won't listen to you on this.
Give up trying, when you move out you can do things as you see fit.
In the long run, your son isn't suffering any harm from this.
It's a case of mind over matter: if you don't mind, it don't matter. Try to not let it bother you.
2006-11-21 13:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋