(i know i already asked this)
i went to a soccer game one night, with people not from my school. this girl came up to me and said, "my brother thinks you're hot, and wanted me to give you his myspace. he's too much of a chicken to tell you himself." and she gave me a piece of paper with a link and walked away. i didn't even know who he was. i went back home and added him, and he's REALLY REALLY REALLY attractive. he talked to me a little at first, and commented my pictures about how "gorgeous" i am and stuff. i get that a lot, not to be vain or anything. he asked for my screen name. i am only 14 years old, and a freshman. he is a 17 year old junior. BUT i told him i'm a 15 year old sophomore because i was afraid he'd think freshman are lame. he's kind of a little bit of a pervert, but all guys guys his age are so i'm not worried. he wants to hang out at the mall this weekend, and he just asked me on aim "do you kiss on the first date??"
i'm kind of nervous. how do i act? what should i
2006-11-21 03:56:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-21 03:57:17 · update #1
You started out your relationship with a lie? Why would you do that? Trust is something that is very valuable in a relationship. And no, 14 year olds DO NOT kiss on the first date...nor the second, nor the third, and so on. See what happens when you try to pretend you are something you are not. Wrong wrong wrong. Just be yourself. Seriously, you have so much time a head of you...just be a kid and enjoy right now.
2006-11-21 04:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by Zelda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you don't seem to feel comfortable with this guy if you lie about your age so he thinks you are not "lame". He compliments you so you will want to be with him. Being young is something you should enjoy and not worry about being lame to a guy you met on-line. This guy probably has a girlfriend if he is so attractive, and you could just be a joke to him and his friends. Be careful the Internet can be both good and bad. Do your parents know about this guy? They would be the best people to talk to. If you do decide to go see him at the mall make sure you take someone with you and don't be alone with this guy. Tell him that until you know him better you chose not to be alone with him, and that meeting him at the mall is not a first date, it's getting to know each other. Being a pervert should make you think about meeting this guy, if he does this on-line what will he say and do in person, just think about it. Stay safe if you do meet him and don't leave the mall with him even if he offers to drive you home, get to know him better before you make any major decisions.
2006-11-21 04:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by mom-of-2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all guys are perverts at that age, but a they do have on thing on their minds and you know what that is! if i were you i would go out with him like he's nobody special. he will think your really mature and might not care so much that your are younger than he is(because that age difference does matter you are minor!!)
you need to tell him the through though, if he doesn't mind than go for it and have fun. if he makes a big deal about it than he just wanted you for sex.
go on the date and have fun but watch him carefully... see how he acts. i would recommend a movie rather than the mall. movies dates are easier cuz you don't have don't feel so much pressure to come up with topics for conversation. you can just talk about the movie.
well... good luck!!!!
2006-11-21 04:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by Julz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the mature advice you seek.
The younger you are, the closer in age you should be to your significant other.
You know this in your heart of hearts, that's why you lied about being older than you really are. It's very seductive to be sought after by an older guy, but in the end, its a short cut to misery.
He ought to be going after 17 year olds anyway... and he knows this. Plus he already wants to know if he can be kissing you the first time he gets a chance to. Sheesh, what a player.
Tell him the truth... tell him a real man wants an equal, not someone still on growing who he can mold to his desires.
Hope this helps you...
2006-11-21 04:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's going to find out the truth about your age so why not be honest right now and let him know how old you are. If he finds out from others it will make matters worse. That is a pretty big age difference for a young girl your age and you must also ask yourself how your family would feel about you seeing someone this much older than you. Or do you lie to them also about his age? You have an important decision to make and need to consider all the consequences before making your final decision.
2006-11-21 04:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him the truth first and let him know that your a freshman if he blows you off then he is not worth your time you sound like a very respectable female and any guy that wont like you because your a "Freshman" is stupid now second if you go on this date don't be nervous have a good time and fallow your heart!!!! everything happens for a reason!!! Keep your head up and stay strong!!!!
2006-11-21 04:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by socerchic2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a tendecy for girls to b attracted to older guys but its not always safe. I like the group dating thing that way u stay out of trouble and u get to know the person a bit more than if it were just the both of u on an exclusive date.
2006-11-21 04:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by brambram87 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are perverts. Trust me. Do NOT let him kiss you on the first date! If he's that forward and perverted though, he may try something so if you really want to go out with him, go on a group date with people who are mature and not perverted ok? Be careful please. He doesn't sound all that shy if he would ask you that question!
2006-11-21 04:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by Eden W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. There is not that much of a difference in age. Take it slow. If you kiss on the first date then say yes if not say it depends on how you feel at the time.
2006-11-21 03:59:45 · answer #9 · answered by 2strongfor2long 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you came up with the idea that all guys his age are "bit of a pervert". if you think that he's only after sex and you want more than that, leave him alone because you might get hurt.
Listen to your heart...
you could meet later other "REALLY REALLY ATTRACTIVE" guys that probably won't hurt you.
2006-11-21 04:04:49 · answer #10 · answered by harieta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋