whose going tell who when its gonna be alright. and how can you believe them?
2006-11-21 03:53:28 · 7 answers · asked by nodumgys 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Artificial Seet: it doesnt work like that. you could have an amazingly perfect life, and stil lbe depressed. depression is usually related to a chemical impabalance.
to answer the question, no, it's not wrong. there's nothing wrong with you wanting them to be happier then you. essentially, it's nice. now, to want it only vuz they can lift u up, tht's kinda selfish, but it's reasonable and rational. we all want a good support system. so you're totally fine in feeling that way.
2006-11-21 04:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by HW-7 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really don't think it's "unreasonably selfish" as you have stated. However, it does seem rather peculiar to me. I recommend what the two should do is talk things over with each other. If there was ever a time where the lines of communication should be open, this would be it.
2006-11-21 12:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is unreasonable to accept depression as a given. I cannot imagine a more dysfunctional relationship than one between two depressed people.
See a professional and get some help and set your relationship and life goals a little higher.
It is reasonable to expect that a relationship with someone would be based on both of them enjoying each other and life together.
2006-11-21 12:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Read and follow the self-help, excellent coping strategies in the books by "Jon Kabat-Zinn" and "Andrew Weil".
There another author by the name of Thubten Chodron. She is an excellent author. Her best and most popular book out is called "Working with Anger."
Jon Kabat-Zinn provides excellent strategies in his books, "Coming to Our Senses" AND also "Full Catastrophe Living", as well as in his book, "Wherever You Go, There You Are"
You can obtain any books by the three authors I have mentioned for only $3.70 ea. to start, on Amazon.com
It is not highly advisable to label a person, nor yourself with such labels as a depressant, or bipolar, or adhd, etc etc. Doing so causes much tension, and causes a person (or yourself) to have a negative self-image. There may be some, or many symptoms present, but those symptoms can always be dealt with successfully through books by Dr. Andrew Weil
and Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn PhD. and Thubten Chodron (her book "Working with Anger").
A label is not ones true identity, nor part of ones personality. Books by those author produce much patience, improve cognitive thnking, memory and focus. Improve ones self-image, provide self-respect, and definately helps a person to see things as they truly are in life.
Most of all, be kind and very patient with yourself and also with your significant other.
You two are very special individuals who deserve peace and happiness ! And You both Will soon have the peace and happiness, which brings the stability you have so desired.
Very Good Question, THANK YOU !!
2006-11-21 13:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
But the thing is you can't control how depressed you are. The only thing you can really do is try not to bring other people down. So, you are not selfish for wanting him/her to not bring you down. But to tell them to be less depressed is like asking someone not to like their favorite candy. Impossible!
2006-11-21 12:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, it's not selfish. it's better than wanting both of you miserable. lots of people, even a significant other tell you "it's gonna be alright", but what the hell do they know? you can't believe anyone unless you believe it yourself.
2006-11-21 12:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why are either of you depressed at all? If you have eachother and love eachother whats the prob?
2006-11-21 11:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by Artificially Sweet 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋