When I visit my grandma, she gives me food, which helps me because I'm in college. I always send her thank you notes but don't know what to do with the food I don't like. I either give it to my family or donate it to charity and keep what I like. I don't want to say anything to her because that seems rude. Is it?
2006-11-21 03:45:44 · 21 answers · asked by Bear 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
do not tell her the truth. it wil hurt her too much as she is older and set in her ways.
the joy of her giving you is so valuable to her and you - don't mess it up.
you are doing the right thing by giving what you do not like to someone else who will appreciate it.
so - you are doing 2 kind things - 1- making your grandma happy and 2-making someone less fortunate than you - happy.
keep up the great work - you sound like a decent person. and lord knows - we need a few of us around here.
2006-11-21 03:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a wonderful idea to donate the extra food to charity. I would just continue doing it. That way, you get good karma for doing nice and your grandma keeps helping you!
2006-11-21 11:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like anything at all that your grandma cooks? If so request that special dish for her to make. She would be flattered if you gave her a request- older folks love that stuff! However if you just don't like her cooking then always accept the food and keep thanking her for it. I'm sure you could find many of your classmates whom are hungry , and who don't have the luxury of having a home cooked meal that often.They'd love the gift!
2006-11-21 11:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO, you're doing the right thing. Her giving you food makes her happy. You receiving food makes you happy (and full). Your thank you notes make her feel good again. You don't waste the food you don't like, but instead give it to a worthy cause (family, friends, charity, etc). It really sounds like win-win. Perhaps, to lessen the chance of the food you do not like you can say in the thank you note (or in person) "Thanks grandma! I really love the whateveritis. Can I get more of that in the next care package?"
2006-11-21 11:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by capulet1970 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't say it was rude, but I wouldn't say anything to her. It might make her feel unappreciated. I know if you are in college you have plenty of friends that are poor too ( I know I was) and would kill for home cooked food. The idea of you giving it to friends and charity is a good thing too... I wouldn't say anything it probably makes her feel good that she can help....
2006-11-21 11:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by shonnypooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept all of the food and appreciate the fact that you have her in your life now; one day she will be gone and even the food you don't like you will miss because she gave it to you.
Don't tell her anything, it won't solve anything. Accept the food and give the food you don't want to a less fortunate person who will be happy to take it from you.
Hope this helps
2006-11-21 11:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by dymps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing everything right, with the thank-you notes and not wasting the food you don't want. Don't feel guilty just because you don't eat it all. Try complimenting the items you like particularly, so she'll give you more of those.
2006-11-21 11:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by wildheavenfarm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would continue to graciously accept what grandma gives you and pass on what you don't care for, like you're doing. However, a comment about how much you loved the "fill in the blank" might garner you more of the "good" stuff!
2006-11-21 11:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by Didi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
common sweetheart if u reject her food u gonna break her heart, just continue with what u are doing with the food. You will surely receive a reward for giving the food to charity and to those that need it most
2006-11-21 11:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by jus wanna know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you are doing is correct. Gladly take what she offers whether you like it or not, because it is often through the service for others people find the most happiness (especially for parents and grandparents). It is also good that you don't just dump the food you don't like; very admirable of you. Good luck.
2006-11-21 11:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by straightup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋