my friends and family always harpin on me cause i have never been on a date and am still single. but i dont believe in forcin things.you gotta let it come to you..ya know...just let it happen...and they on my case because im turnin 40 next week.
2006-11-21 03:37:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you're right, you shouldn't force it. But you gotta look at it through your family's eyes. If you haven't been on a date then you aren't really giving yourself many chances to find that right person. You have to actually go out with people and get to know them so that you can find the one you love. But, if you're not really into that then just realize that many people see getting married and starting a family as a VERY important life accomplishment that you MUST DO. Personally I don't see it that way and a lot of other people don't either, but my family does the same thing to me that yours is doing. Just keep doin your thing and they'll get over it.
2006-11-21 03:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by maggielynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, you're 40 and never been on a date!
If the only woman you know anything about is your mom, how will you know the right woman when you see her? Or how to treat her? Or talk to her?
Dating is practice for all of this. You gotta practice to be good at anything.
You're probably a great guy, but no one is going to know that until you put yourself out there. The right woman can't come your way if she doesn't even know you exist.
Because you've waited so long, you have to engage in shameless self promotion. You gotta be loud and proud. It's time for you to shine. At the same time, if she's special to you, you gotta be willing to listen. (Women will tell you what they want you to know)
Make an effort. Ask someone out.
Get in the game, man. Get in the game.
2006-11-21 03:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by peter n 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not a thing wrong with waiting for the right one.
That said, waiting 22 years to go on a date might suggest that ~ 1. Your sights are set way to high. 2. You are not in a situation whereby you can interact with woman. Or 3. You'd rather be single.
If you do want to find someone, put yourself where they are and be open to whomever comes your way.
If it's number 3, that's okay, too. Just don't become a priest.
2006-11-21 03:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by deepndswamps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, don't feel bad. I am 40, and in my lifetime, the only dates I've ever been on were 2 blind dates. Both occurred 20 years ago. I agree with you about not forcing things, but I have to admit that sometimes I sure get lonely. I would love to find someone who, when he looks at me, sees my heart instead of my outer appearance.
Don't let what your family and friends say get to you. I know it's hard, but you're doing what's best for you.
2006-11-21 04:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you mean.....waiting? Honey, you are terrified!!!!! You are either extremely uncomfortable with the opposite sex or you may have a question about your own sexual preference. Either way, by your age if you haven't been on at least one date, you may want to enlist in the help of a professional. Your family has every right to be concerned. Ask them why they think you have never dated, you may understand yourself a little better.
2006-11-21 03:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with waiting for someone you click with but you need to actually date them to see how well you click.
Just try to date some of the people and see how it goes.
2006-11-21 03:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
turnin 40? I think you have really to be in a hurry to catch the last trip... In d past you might have been given the opportunity but you did not grab it. You are not going to force things.. You yourself is the one making your own fortune.
2006-11-21 03:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing's wrong with waiting.
But you're saying you're turning 40, so I guess you prefer to sit out the rest of your life waiting for something that may NEVER come.
2006-11-21 03:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
how will you know if the right one comes along if you don't take a chance and go on a date! maybe you won't know the right one until you meet a few wrong ones ya know!
2006-11-21 03:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are still being social, it is nothing wrong it...But if you are always at home, sitting on the couch, or never go out with friends, then your luck will never change..You can not find the perfect women sitting at home..
2006-11-21 03:40:10 · answer #10 · answered by Momentum 1 Travel 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋