How do i know if i am ready for children at an early age?

Question

As ive stated befor i am wanting to try to have a baby soon but my family i dont know how they would react so i want to talk to them but are my honey and i ready and stable finacially enough yet or what? i dont want to belive the doctors but theyre right so many times and adoption is a big option but i want to go through the beauties of giving birth for myself

Answer 1

NONE of us are ever REALLY ready.......I had my first child at 25....Thought I was ready......But I don't think your ever 100% READY!!....They change ALOT of things in your life....It will NEVER be the same.....In may ways better in other ways worse....If you think your ready....GO FOR IT!!!....There really is no such thing as a GOOD time.....

Answer 2

I don't know if anyone is ever really financially prepared for a baby, if you both want a child and are willing to make your sacrifices (as very parent does) I had my first at 17 and my second at 22 and we are doing ok. It was a struggle at first but you get over the bump eventually. Giving birth is an amazing experience as any mother will tell you however adoption is a very good option to help children in need. Whatever your decision is just make sure it's right for you and not anyone else.

Good Luck!

Just to add if you are in your teens since you didn't really specify I would wait until at least early 20's for I was in no way prepared for a baby at 17. Thank God for family.

Answer 3

In one sense you can never be 'ready' for children. I had my first at 40, and it's HARD work at any age. Let me tell you what I think now with hindsight.
If you are ready to devote all of your time and love to a child, if you have good support around you, if you have a stable home environment to offer a child, you may be ready in one sense.
If you can give up your own pursuits in favour of a childs needs, if you can let your ambition take second place, if you are prepared to have your endurance and patience and relationships tested, you may be prepared in another sense.
You can never be prepared for wonderment, the outpouring of love, the remarkable miracle of childbirth and all it entails.
On a more practical level, if a doctor is telling you that you are not ready - chances are they are right, they may see something that all us well-intentioned folks can't see or know about you.
Hope this helps - bringing a child into the world is wonderful and carries a massive responsibility - money is not really an issue - but believe me self-sacrifice is...

Answer 4

If you don't know if your ready or financially stable enough then I would wait. Adoption is a big option but what happens if that is just to hard for you to do and you decide you want to keep it? Then you need to make sure you are able to take proper care of the baby. I understand wanting to go through the beauty's of giving birth but it will be much better for you and your baby if you can also go through the beauties of motherhood too. Trust me you will be glad you waited.

Answer 5

How old are you? Are you atleast over 19-20?

If you and your husband can pay the bills now and still have money lest over each time and you think you can handle a baby then go for it. Some doctors have told a couple of my friends that they would never be able to get pregnant and give birth but they did.
You always can't believe doctors cause they are not god. Just keep on trying and if nothing comes of it then either see a really good doctor about this or adopt. Maybe find a surrogate mom.

http://www.adoption.com & http://www.surrogacy.com

Good luck

Answer 6

Are you ready to stop partying? Loose lots of friends that don't have children. They get tired of putting up with you not able to go out at a moment's notice or because the baby is sick. Put all your money towards what the baby needs? Do you make enough money to support the child by yourself? You never know if your guy will be killed or disabled or leave! Do you have medical insurance? Babies need lots of check ups and get sick often. Do you feel you are mature enough to teach them everything they need to know and they can rely on you for everything? You will be a Mother forever. You don't get to quit if it gets hard or you are tired of it!!! Have you had fun...enough fun? Do you know who you really are? Can you define yourself without being attached to your parents or some guy? People change a bunch between 18 and 25, what you think you want now, may not be what you really want then! I started having kids when I was 20 and feel it was way to young! I'm 49 now and still want to recapture what I lost by having kids so young...I missed out on lots of fun, spending time with friends, learning who I was and traveling. I ended up divorced without support and always struggled for money. Not exactly what I had planned! Just think long and hard...you can always have kids, but you sure can't put em back! Best wishes!

Answer 7

First, you need to be over 18 and have high school finished. The guy needs to have been in a relationship with you for at least 2 years. In a perfect situation, being an adult will better prepare you for this. And being with the guy at least 2 years should help you better know if he's stick around or not. Its best to marry before kids, but not everyone thinks that. Just don't go making a baby at 15. Babies are not play toys.

Answer 8

No one is ever really ready to be a parent. Sometimes you just got to go with the flow. Take it one step at a time. Family members tend to not approve of it, then sometimes they do. Babies are very expensive. I had my children young, and its hard, finacially, and emotionally. I don't regret it, but I just wish I waited a little bit longer to get my life in order. Having a baby is true happiness, but not for everybody. You might give birth naturally, or a C-section. Take your time.. if it happens, it happens. Don't rush, though.

Answer 9

You don't let me know how old you are, how long you have been with your "honey" (boyfriend, fiancee, husband, what?) and what "financially stable" means to you. Your family may be right in wanting you to wait. A baby is not just a cutl little thing to love and dress up, its a serious commitment to a life of being a parent first, and a person second. And whats this about doctors and adoptions? have you been told you can't concieve? On what basis?

Answer 10

How old are you? I personally believe that no one is actually financially stable when it comes to children much less anything else! It's just one thing that everyone makes extreme efforts to support. Children are amazing! I felt the same as you when I found out I was pregnant with my first child, I was 23, living with my parents, the only thing I had of my own was my car and a somewhat decent job. my boyfriend was in the same boat! But we stuck it thru, we managed to scrounge up enuff money to get ourselves our own home and well as pay for everything we needed. Because we had too not because we had the extra cash. When children are involved, people rearrange their lives and make the effort. So before you have a child, think and make sure you willing to make room in your life! As for knowing when your ready! You'll feel it!

Answer 11

a child defiantly changes your life. I had my oldest when i was 20 and I actually appreciate her because she has made me so much stronger and appreciative for what i have. But at the time I was ready financially. Although are you ready to be sleep deprived?
Adoption is also a good thing because it gives a home to a child who needs it and you can still nurture and care for the child as your own. It would still be your child. I don't feel that it matters how it is born as long as the child is loved and cared for.