Ok, so my best friend is a girl (i'm a guy) we are 15 (mature) and have known each other for 2 years. Recently-for about the last two weeks- she has been asking for hugs alot, almost every day, and keeps saying she loves me. She had never done either of these before. But the thing is, she has just gotten a boyfriend (16), so I dont know what is up with the hugging etc. all of a sudden. I like her more than a friend and I have to tell her (I will wait till she breaks up with the guy), but I want to know, why might she be getting more touchy so much so quickly? If I am walking her home she puts her arm around me, and the other day I just made the flippant comment; hey, the cat's giving me a back rub, none of ye are that nice (to a group of friends) and she said "I'd give you a back rub". I find this behaviour odd since she has a bf. Whatever your answer, please say why, as I am trying to work it out.
2006-11-21 03:25:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This has been posted so many times, my head hurts. You are flooding with this dumb question. I would reexamine your first sentence. A mature 15 year old, does NOT ask the same Q for months on end about a HUG. Please. There is no computer glitch that reposts this over and over. Impossible. Stop being so immature.
2006-11-21 03:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by TheOneVersion3.0 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I have a few different suspicions.
1. She's trying to make her boyfriend jealous. Even if he's not there, there's a good chance someone will tell him about her behavior.
2. She's trying to show you her true feelings, and even agreeing to become his girlfriend was in an effort to get your attention and make you jealous.
3. Since getting involved with this other guy, she has realized that you are the one she really wants. Sometimes getting the wrong guy (even if he seems right) can cause you to realize feelings you may not have known were there.
4. She's getting attention from him, she likes it, & wants more attention. She thinks this behavior will get a reaction & attention from you.
I agree with the others, you could just ask her privately.
Good luck to you! ...And kudos for being mature enough to wait until her relationship is over before revealing your true feelings! You are a true gentleman!
To luvsacountryboy, I see that you've taken the time to seek out & answer it all of the 3x he's asked. He's 15, he has an excuse to be immature...what's yours?
2006-11-21 03:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she likes you!!! Since you guys are such good friends than be honest and ask her about the stuff she's been doing lately. And let her know you like her as more than a friend. I wouldn't wait till she breaks up with bf cause you never know how long that would be or what could happen in the meantime between them. Maybe she really wants you and is with him cause she thinks you don't feel the same about her. Just Ask! What's the worst that could happen?
2006-11-21 03:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by LSSY724 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm...well, I could think of A LOT of reasons, but none of them might be the truth. Perhaps she only GOT a BF to make you jealous, and has secretly yearned for you for a while. Perhaps she thinks it is now SAFE to be more affectionate to you since she is now attached to some one else....
You see my point, there are so many possibilities, but only one solution.
~~~ASK HER!~~~~
you said you have known each other for years, and are mature for your ages, so find a comfortable time and ask her. Then you'll know. It might even present you with the opportunity to let her know how you feel as well! I can tell by your question that you actually are mature for your age, and I have a feeling your best friend has feelings for you as well. Good Luck!
2006-11-21 03:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by rachprime 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ummm wow you should maybe ask her whats going on between her and her boyfriend. I say I love you to guys alot but I dont mean it in that way I mean it in saying thank you for saving my butt. Or that your a really good freind. I can see how that may diceve guys now that I'm looking at your point of view. So yeah just ask whats goin on between her and her boyfreind. Be suttle about though don't make it seem like you want them to break up. Make sure everythings ok. you like her more then a freind too. So maybe you should ask one of her friends for advice about getting her to be your girl friend. maybe ask them if they know why shes hugging you so much. They probably know the answer better then me.
2006-11-21 03:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe in some way she is doing this because you guys are good friends and now since she has a bf she doesnt want to ruin things with you. Or maybe lose you in a way, like you getting a gf...that'll make her jealous. She probabbly knows you like her unless shes COMPLETELY clueless, but if you get a gf trust me, she'll start doing all of that more.
2006-11-21 03:31:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not really nice of you to expect her to break up with her bf. Second, if you are friends, you can talk about everything. Ask her if she likes her bf. Tell her about your feelings. Tell her ou respect her and will respect her decision (that will keep the friendship alive). Be true to her nd to yourself.
Peace
2006-11-21 03:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by Zolex1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doing it to get attention and make her new bf jealous. that is why the sudden change once she had the new bf. Sorry dude, but that's pretty much what is going on.
I also am pretty sure she knows that you like her....giving her the confidence to be that affectionate with you. she knows you won't reject her.
AH, teen angst!!
2006-11-21 04:24:42 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been told that the best relationship you can have is with a friend because you already know evrything about each other so that can make the relationship flow easyer. So just relax and enjoy where you are in life and if it is meant to be she will be all yours. Good Luck
2006-11-21 03:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by LESLIE 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Haven't you been in the same predicament for damn close to forever, now ? If you all are 15 who cares if she has a boyfriend ?
I don't think it was meant to happen, or it would have already.. like one of the other 30 times you've asked this question !!
2006-11-21 04:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by thatoneguy 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋