wants me to prepare Thanksgiving dinner the same way his ex-wife did? I realize that is what he is used to and I should not break all his tradition but I do not want to like her or even compared to her.
2006-11-21 03:20:43 · 21 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would tell him that you will do it some way she did but now that you and him have a new life together you should create it your own way together so you'll each have something to look forward to for next year. It could be better and he'll enjoy it more and it'll be about you two, not his past.
2006-11-21 03:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by enchantedstellar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think being offended is jumping the gun. You are 100% correct when you say the past has become tradition for him, so it's likely not so much "her" that drives him to continue with the same ways, it's what is familiar. You can work with him, and introduce some of your own ways into the routine, and help make new traditions for just you two. Good luck :)
2006-11-21 11:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say with a smile..."I will prepare Thanksgiving the way I always do and I feel hurt that you are putting your ex-wife in this." Tell the man that you are hurt..do not just be so passive about it..If you are passive about this and then it will give him a chance to bring up something again that his ex-wife does..Nip that %$&( in the bud!!
2006-11-21 11:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Momentum 1 Travel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking the Yahoo community if its ok to be offended or not? I would think that you're upset and hurt by it regardless of what the rest of us think.
Let him know any more cracks like that and it'll be turkey sandwiches unless he would prefer to go have Thanksgiving with his Ex. You would think he's not with her any more for a reason.
2006-11-21 11:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but I understand. My husband told me once that he missed his ex-wife's cooking and it really hurt my feelings. That was probably 15 years ago. Since then, I've realized that he shared a part of his life with her and that some of it had to be good! It does not mean he wants her back or I'm inferior. It would not offend me if he said he missed his mother's cooking; it should not offend me that he missed his ex-wifef's cooking.
I miss my high school's mac and cheese!
2006-11-21 11:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be offended by it if I were you, but I would be a bit bothered. What I recommend you do is talk to him. Try to make him understand it bothers you to be compared to his ex-wife. He is with you now, so he should be used to, or at least get used to how you do things. You are your own person, so don't let him forget that. I hope my answer helps you.
2006-11-21 11:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't mind keeping some of his traditions but you are not his ex wife and you will do it to your liking too
2006-11-21 11:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by specs appeal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do ur own sweety u his wife now get him use to ur thanksgiving dinner. make that a tradition0
2006-11-21 11:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by SweetRedz05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would. Its time for him to move on and start a new tradition with you. Tell him to quit holding on to the past.
2006-11-21 11:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it would bother me. I would smile and sweetly say,
"honey I will make it how I always make it and you will love it!" I can't believe he would ask that of you in the first place. If he is impolite about it, you could jokingly say, "okay, if you will make love to me the way my ex did--sound fair?"
2006-11-21 11:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋