Hey guys, a serious question??

Question

I'm 17 and i find it hard to disciple myself (no not like that) and i got told by my counsellor that im basically running round a feild with no fences and i wont get anywhere in life unless i discipline myself. I find it hard to settle down and stick to something for example go to college or do my college work because there is no one to tell me to do it. I know i should be doin this myself and this is really long but any ideas??? Thanks!

Answer 1

Hey when I was 17 I didn't know what I wanted to do in life either! Have you maybe thought that college isn't for you? Maybe that's why you're finding it so difficult to concentrate on it.

Don't listen to the people who say you need to have a degree to get on in life, these days the people commanding their own wages are those in the skilled trades - plumbers, electricians, joiners etc.

Have you thought about taking up an apprenticeship? Maybe you're more of a hands-on learner than an intellectual one...

You really just need to find something that inspires you. Once you do that, it's easy to become diciplined and focus on your life.

Good luck!

Answer 2

The fact you are asking the question is a start. If you have waded through all the answers above to get as far as mine, you are focussed (when you need to be). At seventeen you don't need any fences on your fields. You have the right to run free. But you do need to look to a future time when you may need to get sense. Learn to work with your hands. If you can work with your hands you will never go hungry has always been MY motto and i am more than three times your age! Keep up as much schooling as you can stand because at the end of the day education is what you can still remember when you have forgotten all you have been taught.

Answer 3

I'm 31 and have always been the same way. I find i have to break things up into small time frames and then do something else. I thought i would never get anything achieved but have a degree and a great job where i make good money. Set yourself a realistic goal to do something...say 15 minutes of study and then you will do something else. Then come back and do the same.

The worst thing for me was saying for example i need to read this whole book, i just thought abnout the time it would take and give up. Instead i started saying i would read a chapter, or for 15 minutes and something in my head thought that was okay! Breaking it down into small chunks worked for me and in fairness it still does.

Answer 4

The only thing that you can do is make yourself do something until finished. And it will take time and energy on your part, but anything can be learned. For you homework, schedule a specific time period to do it (say between 7 and 8 pm), which means no TV, phones, radio, or anything else until you are done. Once you do that, give yourself a break, then get back at it until you are finished your homework. This can and will become routine if you do this over and over. Make sure to take breaks though, and no longer than 1 minute at max.

Answer 5

look at 17 you're still a kid. relax a bit, nobody at your age has his life all planned out. many claim to but its seldom that things work as planned for them. still it is getting time to try to settle down some and try to get your act together. start small with a part time job or some other activity that requires you to see it through. collage may not be for you right now. there's the old standby of military service. boot camp will teach you discipline and self relance as well as self confidence. some people will po-po the idea but there's a lot of vets that will tell you that it turned them around. if you're worried about going off to bagdad join the navy, coast guard, or air force. service changes people and usually its for the good. if you decide not to join then get out and talk to older guys about what they do, expose yourself to new things, try something different, explore. you just may find your dream job and it may be something you never heard of before.

Answer 6

Look at the jobs that are available where you want to live. Realistically, which job will you get. How much does it pay ?
Look for a place to live on that money only. I mean actually go out looking at the places to rent. if it aint good think about being there for 40 years. Then get focused and do better for yourself.

Life is not a dress rehearsal. Do it right this time

Answer 7

Not only should you write down your long term goals, but try daily goals. And check them off as you complete them. It will give you a feeling of satisfaction that you completed something. Start with smaller stuff, so don't make the list too overwhelming. Small steps will still get you to where you want to go.

Answer 8

I think you are feeling lonely more than anything else. Get yourself in the company of good friends, or if you dont have them, make friends. Talk to your parents more often (if that is possible), tell them how you feel. A long talk with one's mother is the best possible counselling one can get. A mom's encouragement and soothing words would get you in the right path of being a go-getter. Come on, take that phone and talk to her!

Rgds
Lex

Answer 9

I agree with King Wills. You need to find something you love doing. I've never been any good at sticking with things that don't interest me. And there isn't always any need. Look at the things you love doing, and think about how you might be able to turn that into a living.

Answer 10

What you should do is to write down everything that you need to do along with their deadlines or due dates. This will tell you what to do when there's no one else around to tell you to do it. You just really have to focus at first and take care of those things, then after awhile you should be getting better about focusing and getting things done without wandering.