Okay I work in an office setting. The guy whose desk is next to mine is really loud when he's on the phone and it really distracts and bothers me. I don't know how to tell him to be quieter without sounding mean. Should I just sit back and learn to deal with it (thank god he's not in that much) or should I try to approach it and how? (no rude answers please)
2006-11-21 02:56:42 · 11 answers · asked by laurel 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Other coworkers think so too but none of us know how to approach it. He's a pretty nice guy...just too loud and talks for hours.
2006-11-21 02:57:30 · update #1
Hi there,
Well I used to have the same problem with a guy that was in the office with me. He used to have his speaker phone all loud and i couldnt even hear my radio. What worked for me since he could see me is that; I covered my ear every time he did this. On another situation I told the other end to hold on one moment and that i had to turn the phone up since i couldnt hear them. He heard that and was cool with it and just tried to be quieter. Try that and see if it works. That way you dont come across rude and make yourself feel odd when you talk to him
2006-11-21 03:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by nessa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ditto about having your boss say something instead of you. With your desk so close to his, you don't want extra tension at work if he doesn't take it well. The boss will know how to handle it well. It has the potential to be bad, but if you know him well enough and feel comfortable, ask him nicely to keep it down when he's in the office because you have a hard time concentrating, etc. Good luck!
2006-11-21 11:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If hes nice guy then I would be tempted to broach the subject with him. Say that his conversations are quite loud and distracting. He will probably be embarrassed that he was speaking so loud and tone it down some...;
2006-11-21 10:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by huggz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can ask him nicely, but try not to embarrass him. Say something like "Gary (lets assume thats his name), would it be possible if I ask you just to speak a bit softer when your on the phone? Its not something I have against you, but I can just concentrate better with less noise. Thank you."
2006-11-21 11:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's simple. Just nicely ask him to quiet his voice. Do it one-on-one though, so that he doen't feel bombarded and embarrassed. Just say that his loud voice is distracting and would he please try to be quiter. He most likely will not be offended.
Good luck!
2006-11-21 11:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Lexie E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave a typed note on his desk saying we at the office like you ,but could you keep your phone voice down because its hard to concentrate on work.
2006-11-21 11:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by john doe 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him.
You can be assertive without being mean.
It sounds like he makes it hard to get work done.
Maybe phase in the form of a request.
"Could you help me 'so n so' Im having trouble hearing......"
Good luck.
2006-11-21 10:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by King 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be spoken to, but not by you. I think it would be more effective if another person further away politely asks him to lower his voice. With you being right next to him, he thinks you can obviously hear him. But if someone who sits farther away tells him, he will see that his voice is carrying.
2006-11-21 11:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you and your coworkers should talk to your boss about it. Then your boss can be the bearer of bad news and speak to him about it, after all it really is their job!
2006-11-21 11:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You can send him an e-mail, or have your boss tell him.
2006-11-21 11:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋