I left him, now what?

Question

I left him last night after all the remarks I received from my last Yahoo question. I'm pregnant, he keeps saying he's looking for a job but it has been over two months since he was fired. He's calling me constantly and I won't answer because I know he'll try to talk me into coming home with promises of getting a job. Fifteen months he's been without a job, except for the three weeks he worked then got fired. He keeps saying we need to stick together to get through rough times and that I need to be supportive if I expect him to get a job. I've been his little cheerleader for over a year and it hasn't gotten me anywhere. Now, I'm staying with my sister, it's driving me nuts! She only wants me to stay so she can have a ride to school, work, the store, etc. I have literally one dollar to my name and my boyfriend is at my home. I left him a note telling him to get out before I get back but he's jobless, moneyless and has no where to go.

I have a full time job and I'm applying for a second job while I can still physically work more than 8-10 hours a day.

Answer 1

Well to bad for him its not your problem that he cant get a job, tell him to get out its your house not his! I think one day you should go when he is not there change the locks and throw his stuff out. I understand if its 1-2 months w/o a job but if it’s more than a yr come on now! He is lazy and irresponsible, you are pregnant and to begging with you shouldnt be dealing with this, that’s not good for the baby and last thing is that he has to think that baby needs food, cloths etc, he needs to work in whatever, I think he is not even trying to find a job, Don’t go back with him, you need to think about that baby and give him a better life, a life the baby deserves and stay away for the lazy *****. You have other things to worry about; he should be last in your list. You can be strong do it for your baby and you! Good luck

Answer 2

She probably feels nuts too.....my point is she didn't have to take you in. Just remember that. He can go to friends also if need be if house in your name, call police or go change locks. If you're unable to get a full time job, (being preg) you should look into a temporary service that can get you some temp jobs until you have the baby. It will get you some experience doing different things, some time to yourself, and help to save up money. Keep in mind if your running your sister around is giving you a place to stay, rent free..... I'd take that, but remember, you have to start working on supporting yourself! Many large churches have programs to help women starting out also. How have you been supporting yourselves for the last year? If you have a job, don't fall into giving him a dime. Sounds like he has been mooching for too long. Times will get worse before they get better, but it sounds like you made the correct decision. Start a game plan now because he will fight to keep the free ride going. You can be supportive to him even by him living somewhere else and not relying on you too much.

Answer 3

leaving him is too big of a decition to be based on what people say. he does need help getting a job, even if it is just helping him type up a resume, or take him to different interviews, and let him know, the baby he helped bring into this world can survive without the necesities that it needs, wich must be bought with money, so he needs to get out there and get a job. tell him places to look at. look in windows for hiring signs. help him out. but stop being his cheerleader, the deadbeat hard love. unless you dont love him anymore, then it is time that you start looking for a babysitter now while you can, then go to work. after the baby is born. just a lil advice from someone who knows how the world works.

Answer 4

Well, tell him that it's not that hard to get a job and keep it and if it's really hard for him to sign up for a check because u have a baby to thank about, he must have a disability of some kind. U can find work anywhere, crackheads find work to do and ways to make money.

Answer 5

Wayhay good on you !
Tell your sister that you appreciate her letting you stay with her but you are pregnant and you have to take it easy.
Go back to your home with a friend and tell him that he has to get out. Surely he has a friend or a family member he can bunk with. Tell him that you are pregnant and cannot support the baby on your own and that is why you wanted him to get a job. Tell him that you want him out and if he straightens up and sorts himself out you will CONSIDER letting him see the baby (I'm assuming it's his but if it's not just tell him to get lost cause 2 babies would be too much for you to handle )

Answer 6

Kick his butt to the curb, you and the baby dont need that...There are plenty of men that are willing to raise a baby that is not theirs...Trust me, I am in that situation...My hubby now, works 2 jobs so that I can stay home with my kids...Get him outta the picture...Your a strong person, I since that...It will be tough at first, but you will come out on top...

Answer 7

If you really want him gone and it is your home, call the police and have him removed. If you are done with him, you can't be concerned with all of his problems. If he really wants to work things out, he will go out and find a job and stick with it.

Answer 8

than its time he became a man , an got a job , i admire you for leaving , but you will have to work to get your self a job too a few hours a day to get you some money to o

Answer 9

well da question is do u still love him u r pregnate with his child so both of u needs to support the baby u dont want ur baby growin up without a dad does he noe u r pregnate???u juss tell him he needs to get a job to support ur family dat u have!!!

Answer 10

WHO is YOUR cheerleader? Go back to your home. HE needs to get out of it! AND he needs to get a job! Stop catering to HIS needs. Give yourself your attention...NOT HIM.
If he doesnt leave, call the authorities to remove him from YOUR home.