My husband and I are not ready yet to have kids financially speaking. We just got married not too long ago. How long should I wait?
2006-11-21 02:40:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
whenever you feel you are ready to bring a child into this world. Finacially and emotionally.
2006-11-21 02:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by atc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you when will be right for you, since this a personal thing for you to decide. But I can give you an idea of what you should think about. From my own personal experience of getting married young (19) and then getting pregnant 3 weeks later, and now having 3 kids. There's a lot of things to consider. Like are there things in life you'd like to accomplish before having kids, like school or a career or traveling? If you plan on staying home with your kids can your husband support all of you? Do you want to be young parents and have your kids all moved out when you hit middle age? Or do you want to be older parents who have experienced life and have more money, but have your kids still living with you when you're older? I would wait at least a year if I were you to give you time to be just the two of you. Then maybe think about what season you'd like to be pregnant and have a baby in, and you can try and get pregnant during that time.
2006-11-21 03:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a least a year. I know that seems like a long time but, enjoy spending quality time together before you put a child in the mix. There is no right time to have a baby financially (unless your Donald Trump) so just enjoy being married, going out with friends and most of all this a time for the two of you to really get to know each other.
2006-11-21 02:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by lucyloulady 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-17 08:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically couples wait at least 2 yrs. That gives the newlyweds time to get to know each other and adjust to married life. Also it gives them time to get a good look at their financial situation.
2006-11-21 02:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a question you should asking is your husband. If you both want children, try to budget and plan financially before having them< they are very expensive lol> no one else can decide for you two when the right time for a child is. only you and your husband< or God> can decide that.
2006-11-21 03:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no "right" time, because it's different for each couple. Wait until you're financially stable, have a house, and a desire to be a parent. Enjoy being newlyweds for a while!
2006-11-21 02:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until the 2 of you have made the mutual decision that you are comfortable beginning a family together....kids are expensive regardless of your financial stature,so there will always be some "cutting back"after the baby,decide how soon and how much you are willing to do without before concieving.....i suggest enjoying your relationship w/ your man before making babies cuz they will take alot of time out of your current childless life.
2006-11-21 02:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait until you feel ready. This is something only you and your husband can decide. You need to have this conversation with him.
2006-11-21 02:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few years. Enjoy your marriage and have fun before bringing little ones into the picture. I'm not saying your life will be over as you know it once you have kids but there is that added responsibility.
2006-11-21 02:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋