he's still being fed 3 times a day and when i try to cut out a feed he goes banannas!!! and wont sleep and cries and cries. he can cry for hours until mentally i cant take it and give in.
2006-11-21 02:22:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i only want to stop because i want another baby but im not ovulating
2006-11-21 02:33:24 · update #1
No idea. Mine (17mths) is still fed before bedtime (and before before bedtime, and just after tea time, and just before tea time, and as a mid-afternoon snack and as a pre-mid-afternoon snack and as a just-woken-up-from-nap snack and as a just-going-for-a-nap snack.......;-). I've given up. Most babies that get this far give up of their own accord when they get to 3 or 4 (or so I'm assured....... ;-) I have to be careful that he doesn't fill up on milk just before a meal so that he doesn't eat his real food but otherwise I just don't let it get to me. He doesn't demand milk of other people so if this is the same with your baby perhaps you could arrange for Dad or Grandma to look after him at feed times or put him to bed?
2006-11-21 02:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by Quorlia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cut out the other feeds first, if the night one is the hardest. When he is used to this you can make other changes. Be firm, but gradual.
you could try expressing your milk into a bottle and holding him in exactly the same way you would for a breast feed. A tip is to heat the milk slightly warmer than the wrist test, as breast milk is actually rather warm.
If he doesn't want a bottle, then he obviously didn't NEED it, just wanted it. Do not fold, if you give in, he learns that you will. So he will cry more to get what he wants, as he will know that eventually it will work.
Make sure your baby is tired and full up before bed time, and they won't be able to fight it for long before they fall asleep.
2006-11-21 02:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT put any thing on your nipple. Your baby trust you. Don't break that trust, First think about not stopping until at least two, it is the best for both of you. a woman's body needs two full years to recover before getting pregnant again it is the healthiest for you and new baby. if your still ready to wean DO NOT break the bond between your child and you. Letting your baby cry is not the way to go. And For The Love Of ALL that is Good DO NOT PUT Any thing fowl tasting on your nipple. you have spent 16 months teaching your baby he/she can trust you, don't throw that away!!! It will be hard for both of you but you can wean if you are consistent and not every method works the same for every mom and baby, I weaned my daughter at 2 &1/4 by telling her the story of goldy locks over and over untill she fell asleep
you could try that or sing, just dont offer the breast. The most important thing is to remember your child needs YOU not the breast, stay as long as it takes for sleep to come. It won't take long once yor baby knows loosing the breast does not mean loosing you.
2006-11-21 02:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that you have done very well to reach 16 months. My wee girl is 16 months and still Breastfeeding. Untill about a month ago she would only sleep if I fed her. But on day she was sooo tired fighting, I took her upstairs and gave her a dummy, stuck her in her cot and turned her music on and said, 'time for sleep i'll be back in a min' I went in after about 3 mins then did the same and went in after 5 mins, laid her down music back on after 3 turns she was asleep and I was amazed!! Since then (touchwood) she settles herself off everynight, however she doesnt have naps in the day unless were out in the car. I'm going to carry on feeding her and hope that she'll wean herself, however sometimes I wish I had my boobs back, I think if it wasnt for my otherhalf I would of given up by now! Well done and I hope that you get things sorted.
2016-05-22 06:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can dad establish a bedtime routine and take that over for you?
You could work on the concepts of "big" and "little" with him. Then establish when you'll have a "big nee-nee" (or whatever he calls it) or a "little nee-nee." You can then begin to shorten the nursing sessions so that you control how long they are. Gradually nurse less each time. Sometimes this also works with singing a song, counting or telling a story and then the nursing session is done when the song/counting/story is done. And then you just talk faster as time goes on so you finish quicker. Sometimes they'll decide it's getting to be too short to be worth their while.
Is he ONLY nursing to sleep? Or other times too? If you need to eliminated sleep-related nursings, nurse until he is drowsy and then have dad take over with a sippy of water and some cuddles. There may be some tears, but he is not being left to cry on his own. Someone who loves him is cuddling and comforting him. (With the long holiday weekend coming, this might be a good time to enlist dad's help too!)
Check out the link below.
Also, try the book "The No Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley.
2006-11-21 02:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's no easy answer to this! You just have to stop and go through the trauma of 1 or 2 nights heartbreak.
Make sure he is prepared by reminding him throughout the day that mummy's milk is all gone now. Try getting him to choose a special new cup/bottle that he has only for bedtime so he has something new to focus on instead of the booby!
Good luck hun
Suzie
2006-11-21 02:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by slevy64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has to go cold turkey!!!
it's abit like controlled crying for sleeping - they can cry for hours and yes it will drive you mad.
if he's asking during the day distract him - go for a walk, play with a new toy -anything!!! for nap times and
when you put him to bed, make sure you are wearing fairly tight clothes that he can't get his hands under. when he starts rooting for your breast, just say a good, firm no. don't get into a discussion about it. rather than a bottle which has a teat, offer him a cup for his bedtime milk.
if he refuses, then lay him in bed and walk away. if he cries, leave him 10 mins then offer him the cup again.
it will take 3 days - same as controlled cying for sleep. by which time you milk will have dried up.
remember you are the adult, you are the one in control not him!!! i'd advise that you break the habit rather than your partner - you are the one with the milk and he'll take longer to accept that there is no more if you avoid the evening routine.
2006-11-21 02:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by emma a 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I stopped at 16months as well. He willl keep crying because in the end there is a pay off (a feeding) I tried a new bedtime routine. Reading books, singing songs,snuggle. It did take about 1 week for my daughter to stop fussing. Try to be strong. I know that it is hard to hear them cry but he will get through it.
2006-11-21 02:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by CarrieANNE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's still just a little early for being able to reason with him unfortunatly. If you really can't handle the crying my best suggestion is to spend a couple nights out at a friend or parents. Let Dad or Grandma sit out the tears. Tell yourself he's not hurt, starving, or scared and that he'll be okay. He's acting out of comfort and habit but he's making you act out of guilt. Sadly it won't get easier for a while, he's about to learn the cause and effect of crying for anything he wants toys, food, up, down. Good luck
2006-11-21 04:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by emily 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I weened my daughter off very gradually, I dropped the midday feeds first, then the night feed, then finally the morning feed. Doing it gradually seemed to work for us. I won't lie and say it was easy, I know how much your darling angel can put you through, it hurts to hear them cry when you know what to do to stop them. Be strong and think of your final goal. You will get there, I promise, look how far you've already come!
2006-11-22 09:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by Meelee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋