I was in a friends with benefits relationship with a colleague at work and I ended up having feelings for her which weren't returned. She told me she was in love with someone who has a girlfriend and is living with her for 3 years. She was also sleeping with other men, and I told the unavailable man this so that he would drop her and leave her to find someone more suitable. Since then you hasn't talked to me or returned my e-mails.
The pain inside hurts so much, I keep on crying its been 3 months. I keep on wanting to contact her again and again. I can't be bothered with work, somedays I think I couldn't give a damn if they sacked me or not. My study is becoming affected. I don't know what is happening to me. Any advice? I'm in so much pain, I have never felt like this before.
My friends think im stupid as she is 11 years older, they think she is ugly and she has 3 kids and is bipolar but that just doesn't matter to me I love her all the same.
2006-11-21 02:13:32 · 10 answers · asked by poop s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find someone else. Soon!
2006-11-21 02:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by rwhz199 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Promiscuity is a big problem amongst bipolars, so unless your willing to have your heart broken over and over, I would suggest you take a break. Try to refocus your emotions into something constructive, something good for you and you only. Love is a powerful emotion and painful when one-sided. Try to channel the love you feel for her into more of an understanding of who she is and why she is the way she is. Do some research on bipolarism, then decide if that is what you want to endure.
If you told the unavailable man to find someone more suitable, perhaps you should heed your own advice. Sometimes the advice we give best is that which we most need to heed ourselves.
2006-11-21 10:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by on2lifesjourney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfect example why you should NEVER get involved with someone you work with. Even though it is over, you still have to see her everyday, and that makes it very difficult to move on.
You need to just try to let it go! You can't risk losing your job and everything that is important to you over a woman!! That is not love, it is an obsession! Maybe that is why she felt it necessary to move on. You are in this way too deep, and that is scary!
You had NO right to go to the other guy. You knew about him, she was honest and up front, and you still chose to be with her. Shame on you for thinking she would change! If you really love her and so desperately need to be with her, you would've excepted her and any other guy. If you aren't able to do this, than you need to get over it. She doesn't want to be in an exclusive relationship. You know this now and you knew it then. I don't understand why you are so surprised. Get over it!!!!
2006-11-21 10:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are in so much pain. There are no easy ways to rebound from such a bad experience, but you must realize that life goes on. You have an obligation to yourself (and those that love you) to take the necessary steps to process the pain and heal. You must accept that things are the way they are--and start taking care of yourself. I would advise you to not try to reestablish the relationship. This woman has been honest with you and that's something to be thankful for. You've learned from this experience and you are strong enough to keep going on. If not, I would advise you to seek counseling to help you get past this event. You have much to look forward to and can start working on your future. You made a human mistake; it won't be easy; but you have to pick yourself up and continue on life's journey. Good Luck
2006-11-21 10:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry you will have to get over it on your own or seek counseling.... you obviously knew she wasnt looking for more then a physical relationship when you got with her in the first place... start dating..... do something else to take your mind off it.... why are you wasting your time over her?... wasting your life... how long has it been... 3 months... i guess it is still a little recent ....... i can tell you from experience though getting involved with someon ewith bi-polar isnt a good idea! i was with a man who had bi-polar and i loved him very very much.... but the relationship was turbulent in the best of times ... we were on again off again ... he made me feel like i was crazy... after we broke up the last time i found out i was pregnant ... and he refuses to believe me ... so anyway not a good idea.... there are a billion other fish in the sea... start fishin!!!!!...
2006-11-21 10:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are not stupid you are in love so it is much the same since love is blind and death and...
The only thing i am going to tell you is the cure for the pain:
Only another love is a cure for a love
ps. if she EVER comes back knocking on the door, SLAM it don't even think of anything else. (that means not to answer a phone call too)
2006-11-21 10:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by SaSe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I CANT DO NOTHING BUT LAUGH YEAH YOU RE CRAZY NOT BECAUSE YOU LOVE HER BUT BECAUSE YOU TOLD THAT DUDE THAT WHY WOULD YOU I KNOW TH ATS WHAT SHES THINKING BUT YOU REALLY NEED TO GET OUT AND TRY TO HAVE SOME FUN BECAUSE WHAT YOU DID IS HORRIBLE SHE MAY NEVER TALK TO YOU AGAIN AND THAT IS NOT LOVE CAUSE YOU DID SOMETHING TO MAKE HER UNHAPPY LOVE WANTS A PERSON TO BE HAPPY I WOULDN'T TALK TO YOU MYSELF YOU WERE WRONG BUT ON THE OTHER HAND TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS GET YOUR MIND OFF HER OBVIOUSLY THAT NOT WHO WAS MEANT FOR YOU LOOK AT IT THAT WAY AND SHE IS 11 YEARS OLDER COME ON SHE PROBABLY HAS WORMS OR SOMETHING
2006-11-21 10:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all, how old are you, that an eleven year old works at your same workplace, because if you are over 17, your a pedo! and she has three kids? wtf, is she a hooker, do you two work the same corner? lol, if you love her, and she's a whore, you need to go to a counselor to find out why you liked her in the first place, because i can't see why you liked her at all, if i were you, i would go find a one night stand, (or seven) and stay away from the beeotch.
2006-11-21 10:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, she left you she doesn’t care about you, she is in love with someone else. The best for you to do its to get over it and move on. I know it hurts, but there is nothing that time cant fix. You will find someone who really appreciates you. I
2006-11-21 10:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by kathernva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bipolar is not good or sane.
2006-11-21 10:15:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋