Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year. I didnt meet his mother until i got pregnant (Im 7 months). I barely met one aunt of his 2 days ago (He only has 2 aunts). We had planned on going to thanksgiving at my parents house because it has been years since i have spent it with my family. We had asked his mom to join us so she wouldnt be alone she said yes. Her and the sister that i have barely met always are in some kind of argument. Where she tells my boyfriend dont talk to your aunt because of this or that. Today she just asked if it would be ok to bring along her sister. My boyfriend replied with a firm no. She didnt stop there she asked me. I said i would ask my mom. I then talked it over with my boyfriend and he said a definite no. My question is how do i say no to her? I dont want to be a push over where i say yes to everything she asks. How do i put my foot down in a nice way?
2006-11-21 01:53:19 · 6 answers · asked by Xenobia P 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Let your BF deal with it, it's his family. If she appeals to you (which is why she probably asked you in the first place), refer her to your bf and have her talk to him. It's your house, but it is Thanksgiving, and while I agree that family should be together, if it's going to cause conflict then it's better to stay apart, unless the staying apart will cause more conflict. Whichever is less dramatic and stressful for you (consider the baby), then take that route.
2006-11-21 01:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could just simply tell her that you and your bf would like for it to just be the "mums"-- since there is a new family member on the way, you and your bf would just like for the new "grandmas to be" to get better aquainted....and that since the invitation came from your mom and was only intended for her, you don't feel proper in extending the invite to others.
At least this way, without having to say anything hurtful or offensive, you can still stick to your guns. If you start giving in now, then she'll think she can do it always....and if your bf is THAT insistant on the sis not coming...OBVIOUSLY he's trying to avoid a disaster that's waiting to happen!
2006-11-21 10:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its up to your boyfriend to deal with it. Its his mom. If I were you, I'd stay clear of it. You don't want to have problems with her at this point. Good luck and Happy Thanksgiving!
2006-11-21 10:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say It would be better for everybody if she doesn't bring her sister.
2006-11-21 10:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfriend to tell her no.
2006-11-21 10:01:29 · answer #5 · answered by sa-da-tay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just say no decently
:> peace
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2006-11-25 01:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋