When can you become a jerk? (Part II)?

Question

I finally got some sleep but you know what happens when you think too much *rolls eyes*, I tried these dating sites, and chat rooms is where I met most of these women. Since 1996 I met about 7-8 women off the rooms (even going back to the old PowWow Chat), and all seem to have dealt me the same card. I still keep the nice guy thing, and Im honest through the whole date and they just screw me over in the end.

They want honesty, communication, trust, and respect, and I give it. But when you tell them about your life they date me once and not again. I dont get it. I seen some of the responses on the 1st part of this question. But I just wish someone told me what Im doing wrong.

Does being the nice guy pay off? or I have to succumb to being a jerk?

Answer 1

well some gurls like the whole jurk and rough neck thing and that s the way they want it but trust me its still some nice gurls out there who want the nice sentive guy like you i mean im a very respectible youg woman and ive found me a nice man and my mom told me "see there good guys left but there hard to find and get since there trying ti be something their not to get these fast tailed gurls that want a guy to bet they *** to prove they anit weak but a guy is never weak if he cries that just proves how much of a MAN he really is" so just be who you are and wait the right one will come by and she'll care for you just as you'll care for her

Answer 2

Being a nice guy has never hurt me, once I got past hello. But I also tend to hold alot back, and your posts make it seem like you are maybe a bit too open.

Hold back as much as you can especially at first and still be an honest guy. Let the girl do all the talking, keep turning the conversation back on them. They love that and only later will realize you are a bit of a mystery. If there is something about you that some guys would be bragging about right off the bat, let the girl discover it for herself.

Women are cats and curiosity kills the cat. If it is no challenge to win your heart they think it is of no value. Be nice but don't be easy. Let her know you are a little interested but don't let her know she had you at hello....until at least a year later.

Answer 3

So what do you think a jerk does different on the first date then what you did ? Do you think those bad boy jerks treat the girl like sh*t on the first few dates and that's why they get more ?? Well that's not true. Most times the jerk side of them doesn't come out until you've dated long enough to like them. That's how come girl find it hard to leave jerks. They already like them. Instead of thinking being nice is your problem maybe you should consider it might be something else.