We broke up in September, she broke my heart and I was hurting for over a month straight. In October I completely cut off communication with her. But then, November came around, and next thing one of her friends adds me to MSN. She starts telling me how my ex misses me so much and thinks about me everyday. Then, it happens, she finally adds me on MSN again, starts to tell me things about how I was good to her, how I made her happy and everything. Then she goes on saying how we might have a chance to get back together. We have been talking for almost 2 weeks now and everything seemed to go good, but yet we'd still fight sorta like we did before. Anyways, I just find out this morning that her best friend told her to just move on from me. Im like WTF? I thought her friend was giving me advice to get back with her! And now she is saying she wants to cut ties and to move on! I cant believe this! Once again I get hurt. What is she doing!? I need some advice here.
2006-11-21 01:47:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, and she also hates it when I am hanging out with other girls, but yet she can go hang out with her guy friends like its nothing.
2006-11-21 01:49:57 · update #1
The two of you aren't communicating and there are a lot of dumb games going on here. You two need to talk, IN PERSON, get it all out in the open, and make a decision. It's time to poop or get off the pot for you guys.
2006-11-21 01:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by It's Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is confused. She probably does want to get back with you to some degree, but on the other hand...if you are fighting, maybe she doesn't think things will change and maybe that is where her best friend is coming from.
Plus, she is being "middle school" about it. She has her best friend scout it out first and then plays games! You deserve a woman who will be upfront, honest, and not have her best friend seem to run it all.
Good luck. I have been that girl before. I know how it feels...you love the guy but you two don't work together as well as it should or you want to see other people but you think you love him...yea. It is indecision. The best thing you could do is just cut it. I suggest going cold turkey with a small conversation of *you are confusing me, I need some time to think*. If you think things still may be possible and want to try later, give it six months of silence then go back and see if she really is the girl you think she is. Chances are, you will have both grown at that point and being together will be the furthest thing from your mind...but you never know. Plus, she will get time to think it out...and if she truly does love you to the point of not getting over you, then you might be in a better position to see how it goes. Date other people in the mean time and enjoy yourself. That too will give you perspective.
Good luck and happy dating.
2006-11-21 01:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds so junior high. What I mean by that, is how the friend is giving you messages that are clearly from your ex. They have managed to triangulate you. Whatever you say to one goes to the other. Answers that you get from one are also known to the other.
Clearly she listens more to her friend than her own heart and mind. If you do get back together, she will continue this pattern of behavior and you will be stuck again.
In future relationships, keep the discussions between you and the other person PERIOD. Discussing things with a third party never works.
If you still fight "sorta" you need to resolve the reasons why you fight. There may be issues that are just not going to be fixed. You both may need communication skills to discuss things in a non-threatening manner. Disagreements are normal in relationships. If fighting is the method for handling these disagreements, the relationship will break down sooner or later.
2006-11-21 01:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Linda R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is your ex for a reason remember this. She obviously still wanted to know if you had feelings for her and if it came down to it would she be able to get you back, and you proved to her that you do.
However now you need to play it cool and tell her that you agree with her and that it would have been a mistake, wish her well and then cut all ties. I know that it's hard and she broke your heart but you have to be strong and move on. I don't know why her friend is now discouraging her, but don't dwell on it, put it all behind you. Because every time you think about it it's just going to make you angry and sad at the same time.
If you see her or her friend pop up on MSN for the time being just ignore them, don't attempt to make contact or anything like that, because what they did just wasn't fair
2006-11-21 01:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, your first mistake here was letting her friend get involved. NEVER LET FRIENDS GET INVOLVED IN RELATIONSHIPS. Friends are bias and tend to only look at one side. Second, look at what you are fighting about. If you feel like this relationship is worth it, try to get to the root of the problem and talk to the girl. And make it clear that you want her friend out of this, and if she makes a fuss, tell her its about you and her and not you her and her friend. Good Luck, hope this advice helps!
2006-11-21 01:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, my friend....that girl has ISSUES! Second, if she is trying to play with you, like today I love you, tomorrow not, just let her be....AWAY FROM YOU! Tell her to leave you alone, and never talk to her again. Those kind of people that like hurting others, always end up alone, and with no one to love them, because of making so much hurt. You seem like a nice guy, just get over it, and find someone else to get to know, someone NEW that can bring to your life NEW things, new experiences.And remember...YOU SHOULD NEVER, EVER LOOK BACK, ALWAYS LOOK FORWARD...IT'S NOT WORTH IT! GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-21 01:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by fren_chy24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not the words from the friend, its directly from your wife, she tells everything that she feels thru her friend. She is in love with u, don't worry these type of silly things do happen in married life, continue living with her. If we fight with our parents (mum & Dad) to we divorce them No, then y should we divorce our wife. Come on dear cheerup and accept her.
2006-11-21 01:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this might seem bizarre, yet heres the fact. by getting returned interior the loop with him (fb) it re-created or re-uncovered a "soul tie" (A soul tie is something you're making with a individual once you place money into them.. they are in a position to me "friendly" "Romantic" "out of lust".. etc.) It sounds to me which you may cut back the soul tie. In doing so your freeing your self from "his existence". the terrific way is to take it up with God. (does not count number in the adventure that your non secular or no longer, God nonetheless loves you and needs the coolest for you) Ask the Holy Spirit to tutor you any element you may forgive your ex for.. by forgiving, in spite of in case you do no longer experience like it, your getting free of the failings maintaining you to him. And by asserting it out loud mutually with your mouth your heart will fallow. (It does not enable him off the hook, it enables you to off the hook) i'm particular this sounding stupid, besides the undeniable fact that it leads to freedom (i've got had to try this in my very own existence) in case you ever locate your self on your room attempting to decide whats next, and it form of seems such as you could no longer even think of because of the fact your feeling incredibly some issues at as quickly as. that is a large time to ask God to return and help :) All you may do is ask!
2016-12-10 12:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason she is doing this is because she knows that she can get to you and get what she wants you need to just leave her alone and go on about your business get you a new girlfriend and dint even pay any attention to her at all
2006-11-21 01:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by brittany r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the science of women!! Been there done that. MOVE ON and DELETE her from your MSN
2006-11-21 01:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by mister roy jones 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋