Do women inherently/habitually play MIND GAMES??

Question

Honestly... do they? I don't think my manhood should be questioned, manipulated or put on trial every 16 seconds. Running into road blocks like this make for awkward and excrutiating dates/hang outs for me. I've mentioned before I either don't respond or respond negatively to this kind of ignorant criteria of evaluation. For instance, many times women Ive been with bring out their bitchy attitudes, and I often get the vibe its deliberate to see how I'll react. If I ignore it they assume I'm being submissive or weak and "walk all over me". If I turn into a Neanderthal and call them out on it they either become vindictive about it or turn submissive themselves and play it off, only to do it again moments later. Im open for rapport but I often cant make it past this initial stage without getting frustrated at their aloof giggling and manipulation, whether it shows openly or not. If women delibrately do this, what are some suggestions to get past this? Or are there mature women out there?

Answer 1

Age plays a major factor my friend. Science claims that wmoen mature faster than men. But sometimes I wonder if that determination was limited having children.
A woman of experiance knows not to play games but she will test you while a young girl will just act plain stupid and unsure of even herself as if she hasnt discovered herself yet and she wants you to be the one to create character in her. Try to keep in mind that the male figure a woman has known most of her life is her father (so long as he wasn't an absent parent). This may cause her to be confused as to her expectation of a mate. If she grew up with an older brother then she should have felt protection and care similar to that of a father but with a better understanding. If she grew up with a little brother then she was more like a mom raising a child that had no respect. Most little boys are a pain in the a$$ to their older sisters than a little girl is to her older brother. If she was an only child raised by her mom then forget about thinking she knows how to act next to a man. It's a hole new ball game and you'll have to take the lead.

Most woman expect the man to take control. Not neanderthal like but control. You can't let her bitchiness get the best of you because you'll be teaching her which buttons control you. You need to be unpredictable but not dangerous. Make her feel important but not like she's the only one. If you're the type to need some alone time and some privacy and to be away from her every once in a while then saying things like:
- I cant live without you
- your the best thing thats ever happened to me
- I will love you forever
are big mistakes. Although they are romantic it will cause her to be obsessive, possesive, self centered and all up in your face 99.9% of your awake time. God forbid you say your going to go hang with your friend or anything else you want to do alone after you soaked her psyche with the above (or similar) phrases.
You can say and do plenty of romantic things that make he feel what she needs to feels.
Just remember this:
A woman expects you to be in control and to have control.
----This does not mean be bossy, not give her freedom, and be demanding every chance you get. It means you have to be the decision maker. Instead of asking "What do you want to do today", tell her "This is what we're doing today" once in a while but not all the time you add "unless there is something else you prefer". This can be applied towards going out to the theatre, museum, dinner, a stroll in the park, etc.

A woman needs to feel safe.
----Every once in a while a woman, during her life cycle, feels unsure of herself, afraid, insecure, and frustrated. Woman handle these and other stresses a lot differently than a man. Be aware that these emotions come out of the blue and without detection. There are no obvious signs. All she needs is reassurance. Whether you mean it or not make sure she has it.

A woman needs to feel beautiful
You may think your girl or wife is beautiful. She may qualify to win modeling competions and beauty pageants. She may even be vain constantly admiring her own beauty. But all that means nothing to her if she doesnt feel beautiful to you. You must acknowledge her. Tell her she's beautiful. Actions speak louder than words. Caress her. Caress her face. Run your fingers through her hair. Maybe she's not very pretty. Trust me she's fully aware of her looks. She may even be offended depending on how you say she's beautiful. For instance if you say "You are beautiful to me", She'll probably say "Oh, yeah that means I'm ugly to every one else right?!?" Or if you say "You have amazing eyes", she'll probably say "That's about the only thing I have, Isn't it?!?" Don't ever focus on parts you like because you're making obvious the parts you don't. If you're not sure of what to tell her then don't say anything. Just do. A woman who knows she is not very pretty will do other things to compensate. She will wear nice clothing, style her hair, and where perfumes. Do make notice of those things and acknowledge her.

A woman needs to feel important; valuable
----You accomplish this by making her matter. He thoughts and opinions. Make her part of your decisions. These could be as minor as picking a color shirt to wear or buy. It can be a style of cell phone you want to get. It could just be a thought. as you get deeper in the relationship maybe get her opinion about a car or a house.

Inaddition always keep these 4 rules.

The Golden Rule
- Do unto other as you would have done on to yourself

Communication is the key
- Maintain communication let her know how you feel. When your not happy with something let her know with calm conversation. She will do the same. Don't get angry at what she tells you because then you destroy the lines of communication. Look foward to the communication. Don't frown upon it.

Making love is not all about sex
- Caress, massage, romance is all a part of making love especially during her menstrual cycle. (Speaking about PMS- You need to educate yourself on the emotional inbalance of a woman PMS <---VERY IMPORTANT)

Honesty is the best policy
- This is the most dificult. The last thing that a man or a woman want to do is tell the other that they were unfaithful. You have a good chance that if you follow everything mentioned above you mate will not be unfaithful. But 3 factors still remain that may be out of your control.
1. Can you keep up with her sex drive - Hopefully she's not a nympho
2. Does she have a secret desire to be with a "hunk" at least once and well you're not a hunk.?(A hunk can be many things. What is her idea of a hunk? Is it a muscle bound man? Tight abs on a less musclebound man? Tall Dark and Handsome? Maybe a length and/or girth issue?)
3. Peer pressure - Friends can easily make you do something you dont really want t do. Hows her will power?

Good Luck Dude

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Answer 2

It sounds like, while you may have dated some women who play mind games, the problem may be more with your expectation of what will happen than with women.

Women are no more likely to inherently/habitually play mind games then men. It seems like you are analyzing every response you give these women and are therefore playing games yourself. This becomes a cycle. So, if a woman starts bringing out what in your mind is a bitchy attitude, don't think about what she will do if you do "this" as opposed to "that". Make your responses genuine and you will get genuine responses from the women. This will allow you to have a true evaluation of the person you are with and decide if this is a relationship you would like to pursue.

Answer 3

Men and woman who are not mature play mind games men do even when supposed to be mature just to minipulte the female into what they want .Yes there are good women out there it sounds to me from what you say you are often in a group and girls in a group play all sorts of games with mens minds like you say sometimes to see your reaction personally I would rather a female alone than with friends it can be in public for the female to feel secure and you have more chance of finding the real her instead of this gang superiority.

Answer 4

Well here are some of the answers iv come up with: - Cause it can really be fun and a lil flirtatious when you are implying you like someone without saying it outright. - Cause some people are smart enough to turn the tables and play mind games which we have to figure out. - Women like to be engaged in activities in general and to figure things out or keep people guessing sometimes. I do admit that they should be short lived and not frequent for them to be fun.

Answer 5

some, though there are mature women out there who know what they want and what men want.
if you're problem is mind games, you aren't palying your cards right, just try being dominative just for the sake of it - that'll put an end to your problems.

Answer 6

u cant get past it honey, it's that us girls like 2 play mind games with men cuz some of us think it's funny

Answer 7

yes, they have 2 parts of a brain, emotion and some logic where men usually just have logic.

Answer 8

yes they are playing a lot of games

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