This guy never calls me anymore, spends time with his friends all of the time and even ditches me for actualy the same guy his best friend all of the time. We only see eachother weekends and it has all caused me to be kind of interested in this other guy who can provide everything for me but i am so confused i love him but i realy like this other guy.
2006-11-21 01:30:48 · 7 answers · asked by kristi h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The treatment you are recieving now will only be worse in a commited relationship. I will answer your question with a question. Why would you stay with a guy who does not put you first? You say there is another that treats you nice. He does not love you like you love him. Dump him NOW.
2006-11-21 01:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by Barry W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to give him an ultimatum and then you'll see what matters to him most. I think that its perfectly natural for him to have a life outside of you and that you should also keep your friends (not saying that you dont though) and a life outside of him. However, if he spends all of his time with his friends while leaving you on the back burner, well then that's a different story. You need to tell him how you feel when he constantly ditches you and that although you have no problem with his spending time with his friends, you wish that he would spend a lil more time with you or at least include you once in a while when he does go out with his friends. If he neglects your feelings and/or continues the same behavior, then I think perhaps you should call it quits and go for the guy that you have a crush on now. You should keep in mind though that this new guy might just seem like a better option bc of the problems you are enduring with the guy you claim to love. (The Grass is always greener...etc.) So I think I would at least make the effort to give your current bf a chance to right his wrongs before moving on. Good luck to you and I hope that your bf listens to your feelings and respects them so that you guys can get past this and move on with both partners being happy.
2006-11-21 09:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking him what's up with his behavior? Be honest and ask him if his feeling have changed? Tell him how you are feeling. If he is the one for you he will tell what it is you are worried about. If he blows you off move on. Don't waste your time on someone who is putting you on a shelf and taking you down when he wants to be around you. Sounds as if he is trying to let you down easy but, I not sure. Ask him straight out what's going on? Then if he dumps you you will know how much he didn't care. Then take care of yourself and don't move into a different relationship without healing your wounds. If you jump into the hot frying pan as they say you could be setting yourself up for the same type of relationship later on down the road. Good luck and most of all take care of yourself and your self-esteem.
2006-11-21 09:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by Rosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other guy will do the same thing eventually... You need to talk to your boyfriend and see if he's become unhappy with the relationship and express your needs in a non-demanding way.
2006-11-21 09:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jason 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say if the guy you are dating is not giving your the full attention that you need and deserve you should maybe ask him how he is feeling..tell him that you don't feel like you are getting the attention that you deserve..if he does not feel like he needs to give you more attention move on to the next guy!! there is someone out there that will treat you the way you want to be treated..
2006-11-21 09:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do nothing, just let things happen the way there meant too..
2006-11-21 10:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by steve h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him what is hapened in his life
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