2006-11-21 01:27:11 · 19 answers · asked by relaxplease2005 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If there are no open seats and you are of able body and want to yes. Personally I don't think if, say, you and the woman you'd offer the seat to are both young (say under 30) but if she is middle aged/older you should. Ditto if you are a young guy and an older man is standing. I've gotten up several times for older people (24 yr old F)
2006-11-21 01:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not really a matter of gender, I would give up my seat for anyone older than me, especially at the end of the day, because I don't take PT to work, so someone who's been working all day (especially those in uncomfortable shoes) would appreciate the seat, whereas some who work desk jobs have been sitting all day and want to stand. If there are plenty of seats I'll sit, but if there's a shortage, I'd give up my seat so that the elderly or weary-looking can rest.
2006-11-21 02:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While the past does creep into the present, it is always better to live in the present. Presently, women already have earned their share of equality. And in some areas they have more of their share. I would say, you should have equality in mind. For example, if you have to choose between a pregnant woman and an hunching old man, you should save the old man first. Pregnancy has been many times confused with disability. But a full term pregnant woman should be very healthy. Of course, it is so automatic for people to 'admit a pregnant woman to a seat' like an emergency ward.
About giving a seat to a girl ? Many girls don't want a seat because they have been sitting in their office for too long. Unless you want to be fooled, then you may give away your precious seat to a 'sweet looking girl' so that you can see a smile on her face as if saying 'Thank you'. But who knows what kind of thoughts run through her mind.
Thinking outside the box, she could be saying, 'I bet this guy is going to offer his seat to me." or " what's taking him so long to decide."
2006-11-21 01:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by catcher 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not required but it's courteous and polite. I wouldn't think any less of someone for not giving up their seat for me however I would if they refused to stand for the elderly, someone who's pregnant, blind or obviously hurt in some way.
Usually the first couple rows behind the driver in a bus are reserved for people such as this. If you are seated there and an elderly person or someone with a disability boards you are required to move.
2006-11-21 02:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by Ersabette 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think Leia hit it.
If you feel you should, then do it. Generally that means you see something in the other person (man OR woman) that tells you they need the seat more than you.
If you have no problem standing then by all means offer your seat. Most times if the woman doesn't feel she needs the seat, she will thank you and decline the seat.
Not all women are going to take advantage of a courtesy.
2006-11-21 01:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by momwithabat 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is the chivalrous thing to do. Of course these days so many women are "empowered" and find it offensive. Personally, I would appreciate it if a man offered his seat, especially on crowded transport.
Regardless of offering your seat to healthy women, ALL healthy people should offer their seats to pregnant women, the elderly, and the infirm.
2006-11-21 03:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's necessary to give it up to a healthy woman wearing reasonably comfortable shoes, but it would very nice to give it to a woman who is older, wearing high heels (ouch ouch ouch) or who is pregnant.
Or someone of either gender who is tired and needs to sit more badly than you. That's the compassionate thing to do. I've given up my seat more than once to little old men.
2006-11-21 01:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you go by proper etiquette then yes you should offer the seat to a female. no matter if she's aged, pregnant, or wearing sensible shoes, the gentlemanly thing to do is offer her the seat.
it goes along the lines of respect and chivalry.
good day.
2006-11-21 01:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe so, unless she's pregnant, carrying tons of stuff, elderly, or disabled. Basically the same criteria for giving up a seat to anyone (except for the pregnant part i guess).
2006-11-21 01:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda S 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just do what you think is right. from what i have seen most folks give up the seat for the elderly or for mothers with little childeren, pregant ladies, that sort of thing.....
2006-11-21 01:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋