This is the second time this has happened to me. I've gotten into a relationship and then after a week or a month i tell the person i just cant go through with it. In the first case the guy hardly use to call me and i was always calling him. But apart from that fact i just stopped liking him. Now that its over he calls me like every week and says he cant understand why i broke up with him, and where did all the love for him go, and what he can do to get it back. The second guy we started out as friend and he kept on saying how he liked me more than just a friend, and i kept on telling him i rather be his friend, ontill 1 day i decided to give it a try. It felt weird bcuz i only wanted to be his friend. I broke it off in a week. Now he says he wants me back and he dosent understand why i just left him. He says he depressed cant eat cant sleep and now i feel guilty. I try to tell him how i feel about him and how i only want to be his friend but he just dosent get it.
2006-11-21 01:25:59 · 12 answers · asked by brambram87 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've told the second guy what im felling and he still doesnt get it. I told him that i made a mistake in ever agreeing to be his girl and that i only like him as a friend and he still dosent get it. Now he is killing himself emtionallly.
2006-11-21 03:15:43 · update #1
thats usually the way it goes guy likes girl, girl doesnt like guy that way and sometimes the chase keeps it interesting. dont try to feel guilty about not feeling more for the 2nd guy u cant make it happen unless u want it, he'll work thru it eventually
2006-11-21 01:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you been very hurt in a relationship(and I just don't mean boy/girl relationship?
Have you been abused in anyway, as a child, maybe?
I feel as though you have a deep-rooted fear of getting hurt in a relationship. You don't understand why you do the things you do, and sometimes, we don't! There are many reasons why we turn away from people or get confused about love or just liking them.
Give yourself a break from boy relationships and concentrate on relationships in general - that means trying to form "friendship"
relationships with both male and females.
If you have a fear of getting too close, give yourself some time to get to know yourself better and work out what you are wanting out of life(and what type of person you are looking for)
Perhaps you may not be "that" right person yourself in a relationship. You may need time to grow and try new hobbies, travel etc.
Relationships can be very complex. If you are struggling right now, it usually is a sign that you need to subtract and get to know yourself better and enjoy yourself.
When you feel the time is right, nature has a beautiful way of uniting two people together, and usually, things just take a natural course from there. When this happens, you won't be questioning - "do i really like him or do I want to be with them or not? You will just know.
Take care.. and enjoy yourself.
2006-11-21 01:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. It just cold feet and you feel scarced to be close to somebody because you probably had a bad relationship in the past. And the first guy was all wrong, you were just more of a sidekick for him. The second guy seems nice and if you were friends and then a relationship but you really dont give a crap about him, be honest and say i only like you as a friend. dont play around with him and if you really care about him as a friend.
2006-11-21 02:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by jazzyjqween 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with you is that you don't stick to your word. And you try to please other people, at your expense.
Another thing that's wrong with you is that you are merely relying on the "spark" you get when you first get together with a guy. The spark does not last without effort. True love needs to be sustained and decided upon. It needs effort. Romantic love fades if you don't choose to work on it.
You said you only want to be friends with this guy, then why start a relationship in the first place? You feel guilty of making them feel sad, but you're only making things more complicated for you and for them in the long run.
Stick to your word. Be firm with you're decisions. Relationships are not games and you shouldn't enter into one, unless you're sure about the other person.
These are just my opinions. Of course, no one is supposed to know you better than yourself.
2006-11-21 01:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 05:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are 2 guys whom you did not hit it off with romantically, nothing wrong with you.
So far you have done everything right. If someone loves you but you do not love them, who has the problem?
Keep on doing what you do.
2006-11-21 01:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is nothingt called i'll give it a try when others' feelings is involved!!!
apart from that talk to him... try 2 get him to understand that it won't work
about the first guy he's a jerk, and only knew what he had after it was gone, like all of us!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-21 01:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by pumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. you just dont find the right guy that makes you like him enough to stay with him. If you already have your doubts in the begginning dont even try it girl, its losing your time. find someone that you really like
2006-11-21 01:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think u have any problem u just have not meet the right person all these people u meet are just not for u.Just relax
2006-11-21 01:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah,,hahaha a female playa,,u go girl
2006-11-21 01:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋