My x-bf and I broke up about a month ago and I kinda still havent gotten over him. We were together for 7 months and despite all that we've said and done to eachother it still doesnt' change my feelings about him. He was my first love and it's so hard to forget him. I want to get over him so I can stop hurting like this. Can anyone help me ?
2006-11-21 01:24:13 · 13 answers · asked by ~*Everybodys Fool*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You must stay busy, busy, busy. Do your best not to think about him and keep your mind occupied with other things. Hang out with your friends and family. It will take time but you will eventually be able to move on. Good Luck.
2006-11-21 01:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as I hate the spam messages, she's right. Dont call him or answer his calls. Cut off all communication. It's hard, but it has to be done so that you can get out of the habit that you're in of being with him. You have to re-learn to be yourself, and not be his girlfriend. Get busy doing other things, etc. Some say that it takes half as long as you were in a relationship to get over one. So if you two were together for 7 months, it should take 3 1/2 months to get over him. It's only been a month. Just take some time to be you again, and do things that you want to do.
2006-11-21 09:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it depends on you if you willing and want to stop and get over him. but understand you have 2 options the first one is get over him or the second that you still love him and want him back. now we talk about how to let him go. it takes time and patients and a lot of pratice. the first thing you have to do is stop calling him and talking to him. this is the hardest thing but do your best to find something to occupy your time. the next is if you see him just say you are busy and have to do something and never use that route again or you keep seeing him avoid him at all cost. the next one is if you have friends that talk about what he does tell them stop you don't want to hear about it that way you can forget him a little more. if you can do all this my dear am sure you get over the hurt but the only thing that will remain is you went out with him and plus time heals everything so it just a memory after that. now if you want to get back with him you two should talk and find out what broke you both up in the first place and then after you figure it out then you two need to be sumissive to each other that way its not much fighting
2006-11-21 09:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my BF for almost 6 months and I understand what your talking about. Just try to focus on what you did before him and distract your self by going out with old friends. Do everything you always wanted to do that you never could with him with you. I don't know how long it will take for you to get over him but all you can do is move on but save the good memories forever.
2006-11-21 09:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by Doisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the book which helped me the most is
Letting Go: A 12-Week Personal Action Program to Overcome a Broken Heart by Tracy Cabot and Zev Wanderer
2006-11-21 09:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by sprklbds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nothing really anybody can say or do , time heal's all pain. The first always hurt the worst it does get better just be strong.I went through the same thing with someone I had been with for five years.
2006-11-21 09:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Bossy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take it day by day. it is going to take a little while to forget or should i say not need someone who was urlife even for a time and it will be hard and sad . u'll have to get reaccutom to life before him but sometimes u might see something u know he likes and turn to him and realise ofcourse he's no longer with u it will take a while but eventually u'll meet some one new and go on with ur life
2006-11-21 11:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey... you don't need to forget about him... i think you just need to have a little space and time to move on. if you want to get over him, don't take it so hard because if you will do that, i'm sure that you'll never get over him but if you really want to move on, have some fun with your friends and forget that you two broke-up with each other and hurt you... give yourself a time for relaxation and don't think about it for awhile...
2006-11-21 09:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by cool_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy with your friends and family try to keep your mind off of him. He will realize what he has lost and if he is a good guy he will come back to you.
2006-11-21 09:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by padros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend in your position she is all broken up, hey! it takes time to get over your first love, but you are going to pick up your second boyfriend and he is going to be your rebound and you may find love together. you will get over him.
2006-11-21 10:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by TOYAE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋