Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year. I didnt meet his mother until i got pregnant (Im 7 months). I barely met one aunt of his 2 days ago (He only has 2 aunts). We had planned on going to thanksgiving at my parents house because it has been years since i have spent it with my family. We had asked his mom to join us so she wouldnt be alone she said yes. Her and the sister that i have barely met always are in some kind of argument. Where she tells my boyfriend dont talk to your aunt because of this or that. Today she just asked if it would be ok to bring along her sister. My boyfriend replied with a firm no. She didnt stop there she asked me. I said i would ask my mom. I then talked it over with my boyfriend and he said a definite no. My question is how do i say no to her? I dont want to be a push over where i say yes to everything she asks. How do i put my foot down in a nice way?
2006-11-21 01:22:47 · 7 answers · asked by Xenobia P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think it's your place to tell her no. Leave this whole mess up to your b/f. She is his mother.
2006-11-21 01:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by Brina 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Say that your boyfriend has already taken the decision and you are not going to go out of line with him. He's the father of your child and you love him and you wouldn't like to create any hard feelings between him and yourself. Tell her as you are becoming a little family you have to make sure that you stick together, if one makes a decision the other one supports him. Your boyfriend decided her sister couldn't come, so you support his decision.
Like that you don't let your boyfriend down and you don't have to argue with his mother as there is nothing to discuss.
2006-11-21 01:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by ebilginoglu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that to honor your boy friend's request that you have to say no. If that isn't good enough, then she is rude, and doesn't deserve your anguish. She should not have asked anyway - that was a bit forward of her since you guys were trying to make her feel wanted. You might try exploring your boy friend's reason for not wanting her there, but I would place the ball back in your boy friend's court. He needs to explain or bear the consequences of his empty verbal answer. Good luck. Holidays should be a lot simpler than this.
2006-11-21 01:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by Doug R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emily Post can take the heat here. Its impolite to invite someone to a sitdown dinner if you aren't the host. Just have your bf say that there isn't any room this year, all the seats are already taken, maybe next year. She may still take a fit, it sounds like she would anyway, but its not as confrontational as just saying no. If she is rude enough to insist, as she may be, then you say you are sorry, but the answer is no.
2006-11-21 01:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be your self no matter what she tell you if you like this woman talk to her if you you don't like her let her talk now she don't like you to talk to her sister may be tomorrow they get along and she ask you to talk to her may Be to visit her too what too what you do
say no no matter what it will take
2006-11-21 02:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by esz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not married. It's his side of the family. Let HIM handle it.
2006-11-21 01:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask your bf's help..tell him what bothers you...it is safe if he's the one will talk...
2006-11-21 01:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by alexjem 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋