how do I tell my new guy whos a virgin that im not?

Question

I admit I made the mistake and didn't wait but how do I tell my new boyfriend that Im not when he is?
Im so ashamed of it and feel so bad. I feel like he wont stay or think bad of me. Please help!

Answer 1

I say be honest with him

Answer 2

Do NOT be ashamed of anything you've done in your past. Mistake or not, it's part of your past and part of who you are. There's no point in being ashamed of it, it doesn't solve anything and will only serve to hold you down and hurt you more in the future.

Definately be honest with him, when the conversation comes up. Hiding it would be a sign of being ashamed, and it gets awful hard to look yourself in the mirror when you're living with lies. Tell the truth, but don't be ashamed. Tell him what you just told us .. that you wish you had waited, but you didn't .. and that's the simple fact.

If he can't handle it, then he'll move on. And you'll have your dignity for knowing you were honest and upfront, and will find someone else who'll respect that aspect in you.

Good luck :)

Answer 3

after all we are humans! and remember HUMAN IS TO ERR!!!
i say u that u better forget off your bad memories and start your life afresh with your new guy.later after building intimate relationship with him and still u cant forget that itching thought means then u can tell him in a condusive way. coz at that time he would have well understood your good nature.So for now try and forget about bad past memories and feel happy to start a new relationship. But last but not the least, dont forget to learn lessons from the past!!!.
All the best for your future life to be void of ill feelings and full of happiness and love. Take care!

Answer 4

Wow, this whole virginity thing is such a silly waste of our lives. Look at how upset it has got you. I am so sorry. You didn't do anything wrong. People need to have sexual experiences so they can mature as human personalities. As real adults we need to know our own bodies and those of our partners. We need information, experience and a sense of fun. The female vagina is not the Holy Grail. And if we are so uptight about sex then it will always be this weird part of our lives rather than something we can really relax and enjoy. I hope you will not carry this unnecessary burden. Help your man to break out of the trap of virginity as some measure of his purity. That is as bad for him as it is for you. Practice responsible, adult sex, not mythic worship of someone's organs.

Answer 5

at this century you need not feel bad at all to state that you are not a virgin. Because science has made women to chasity easily without becoming pregnant and hence simply tell him that you have enjoyed sex before and if he repels than leave him forever.

Answer 6

Tjis is going to be a tricky one. My guess is that he will be upset you didn't tell him in the first place.
But if you lie to him and he thinks it is something really special as it is both your first time and he finds out he will be gutted.
I say write him a letter, explaining you didn;t want to tell him as you didn;t want to look a slag. But tell him that emotionally he is your first time, and that he is the first guy you WANT to sleep with, and tell him you didn;t want him to feel intimidated. But tell him before youi have the sex.
Its only fair.
Good luck sweetheart

Answer 7

Do you think you have to tell him? If it's important to you that he knows, then tell him what you wrote here, I think he will understand.

But if you're just worried of what he would say, just be honest if he ask you that.

Answer 8

be honest -- if he really cares for you it wont be a problem --- anyway unless you going to engage in sex it wont be relevant anyway

dont beat yourself up --- in 10 years time or even less it will be meaningless to you --- virginity is overrated --- saving yourself for someone is overrated

Answer 9

Tell him the truth .Don't lie it wont get you anywhere .

Answer 10

tell cos if u don't and he finds out, u loose d trust he has in u