I was talking to someone on the phone the other night and when i asked him if he cared about me at all, he went quiet and said he couln't talk then hung up. This guy is my ex by the way and he is emotional messed up cuz i miscarried our baby a month and a half ago and he is gutted. I rang back and asked again and he said he did but not in the way i wanted him to. Why did he hang up? Why not tell me when i first asked him?
2006-11-21 00:56:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Shouldn't you be asking him this? & one of the worst moves is to ask serious questions over the phone best to do it face to face then you have the benefit of seeing his body language! Good luck with it! xox
2006-11-21 01:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by karmaluna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me if I am wrong, but shouldnt you be the one who really really needs some understanding and support when it is YOU who had to physically go through with miscarriage, plus dealing with it emotionally as well. And to add to that, you say he is your 'ex', so you might have had to handle the pain of a broken relationship as well, isnt it ? So, a miscarriage, a broken relationship from the same man who made you pregnant, and do you think he's the only one who's gutted ? I am sure you are too. And you both went through it, i dont know how much emotional support he has given you through this time, atleast considering that the baby was yours and his.....you both do need some comforting (or may have needed), specially you.
And now he has given you the answer, right ? He does not care for you the way you wanted him to. Its simple and straight forward. He did not tell you in the first place cos' he could not really tell you the truth, no courage to speak up. Its so difficult for me to understand the ''shy'' ''communication problem'' part, cos' as much as it is important to discuss this face to face, sometimes over the phone you would have more strength to say things you may feel embarassed or shy to talk about.
Its time for you to heal your own wounds. Give him some time, assuming that he is gutted, and also remembering that he does not care for you the way you want him to. Get your mind away from all this, and just leave each other alone for now.
take care, everything will be okay
2006-11-21 09:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are very uncomfortable being put on the spot like that. They feel pressured and vulnurable. And in his case he didn't want to hurt u, and they have a hard time expressing those types of things. The better way would have been just to tell him how u feel about him, and leave the rest in his hands how he responds.
2006-11-21 09:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to talk to this man. My suggestion is go round for a coffee and a chat and talk to him. You both went through this miscarraige, maybe you should grieve together, it may help.
The guy obviously cares about you but he got a little shy and scared, maybe he is frightened if you got back together you may lose another baby.
There is no simple explanation, you may just have to talk to him. Good luck
2006-11-21 09:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was with other people at the time. Perhaps you should meet up face to face and get it sorted out as there is a lot of emotion in both of you which needs to be aired.
2006-11-21 09:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by Tarotangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you pushing this guy if you already know he is "gutted". Cut him some space. Men do not need to discuss every little feeling the way women do. Men process their feelings differently.
2006-11-21 08:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i really can't say, but if he was really upset with what happened with ur kid then i think it's got sometime to do with what happened. feel u should just give him some time before going into ur relationship and questions about u.i think that will be best.
2006-11-21 09:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, hun, but guys can't seem to talk about their feelings. Never have and probably never will...
2006-11-21 08:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE WAS PROBABLY THINKING ABOUT THE BABY .
BROKE DOWN AND STARTED CRYING
2006-11-21 09:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he dnt wanna know u anymore so if i was you id be single
2006-11-21 08:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋