Please help me. I am so confused.
2006-11-21 00:52:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
Yes. Because they are telling you the whole truth. That means that its time for you to change your personality.
2006-11-21 02:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Love's a two way street. It's difficult to love someone who is highly critical of you. Of course, someone might say this in the heat of an argument, and then regret (and apologize for) it. Then you have the type of person who uses these types of remarks to belittle and control another. That's abuse.
If this is a consistent pattern, then no, I wouldn't waste my love on that person, and I wouldn't have much to do with them. I might in the end pity them, but that's about the limit of my involvement.
Other than where there is a true mental defect, there are no stupid people; although there are people who failed to become educated, listened to bigots, and are ignorant. Those are different.
2006-11-21 01:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how the word "stupid" was used. If I was going to jump off a bridge and I told my loved one my intentions then yes, I would still love them, however, If I went to my loved one and poured out my heart and they said I was stupid, I'd be hurt and maybe resent full, but depending on the relationship I have with that loved one would I consider not loving them.
2006-11-21 00:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Peppino 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love is a state of mind, an emotion, a thought. A healthy person would not let it bother them, simply realize the loved one would not treat you like that. They have issues of their own that they are projecting on you. If that loved one is a blood relative, then tell them that you will not put up with the disrespect. If they are a husband or boy-girl friend tell them to stop or hit the road. Someone who loves you will not tear you down, if you have short comings then they will help you instead.
In short, don't let anyone disrespect you, they will only do it if you let them.
In reality they have serious short comings themselves and feel better about themselves by tearing you down.
2006-11-21 01:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by White 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This has nothing to do with immigration,I for one am getting a little tired of irrelevant nonsensical questions.
If some one told you that you were stupid then they are not someone that loves you.You don't have to be the brightest bulb in the box to still shine.
2006-11-21 01:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by Yakuza 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
People sometimes say things without realizing the pain that it causes. If you love them, forgive them, but remember it. If the behavior continues, you might still forgive them, and still love them, but understand it is time to move on because they don't share that feeling. In such one way relationships, the person who cares is always the one ending up hurt.
2006-11-21 00:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by SteveA8 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's not a kind thing to say and it does no good--only harm. I would call it abusive.
You can still love someone who isn't good for you, but you should love the person from a distance. Try to stay away from people who don't treat you well.
2006-11-21 00:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by liz_in_adam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't just all of a sudden stop loving someone, if you can, you didn't love in the first place. Although people tend to say hurtful things, in the heat of the moment without thinking, you shouldn't necessarily stop loving him. Now, if he does this on a regular basis, then dump his ***!
2006-11-21 01:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course, my friend and I joke all the time, but I guess it depends. If it was a new boyfriend, dump him, if it was ur husband you've been with for a long time, he probably doesn't mean it, and I think you'd be able to tell te difference if it was a friend who was joking or if he/she was telling the (or what they think is the) truth.
2006-11-21 00:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by Ladybug 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before you act, ask yourself (or that person) why they call you stupid...?
If the loved one could prove my stupidity... then I would love them for pointing out my mistake (its called constructive criticism).
If the loved one was making a joke or being an a*s (and I have many relatives like that)... then I'd laugh along before making a joke out of him too (its called "dont fu*k with me").
2006-11-21 01:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by betterdeadthansorry 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋