I'm in my juniour year of high school and I have been dating/engaged the same guy for four years straight. Since I was in the 8th grade. Next year, of course, I'm going to be a senior and the guy I am engaged to is going to be in the 11th grade. I don't know really where to go for my college plans because I'd hate to go anywhere far due to only seeing him every once and a while. Should I look for colleges in state or still leave options for out of state. He said anywhere I go, he'll follow behind after he graduates and be with me. I just don't know what really to do or what my question is. I just needed to let this out because I'm so confused. I love him too much to leave him here in this darn town!
2006-11-21 00:30:48 · 15 answers · asked by V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-21 00:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
U need to follow your dreams and become your own person. Get your education and if your relationship is meant to be it will last no matter the distance. My parents went to college on different sides of the country after 4 year of being together in high school. They staid together for the first 2 years being apart. Then my father decided he wanted to be closer to my mother and came back to collage closer to her. They are still together 26 years after graduation. My sister also has made it through almost 4 years of college (she graduates this may) with her high school boyfriend going to school 3 hours away from her. You can make it work out have him visit you and you can come home on occasion. However don't forget to enjoy the college life it is the best times. I know so many friends that either didn't go to school or chose a school they didn't really like just to be with their boyfriends. They thought it would last forever just to have it end a few years later. They regret it because they missed out on so much. You need to just do what is best for you and your future. I also think you are a bit young to be engaged. You still have a lot of growing and maturing to do. enjoy your childhood it goes way to fast and you have the rest of your life to be an adult.
2006-11-21 02:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by fallenangelf99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to be engaged. Go to a college out of state, or at least in the next town, then break out and have fun like kids are supposed to do. You only live once, and being a grown up and married with kids is no picnic. So go out, live a little, play the field, and find yourself first before you get married. Trust me, you'll regret it if you stifle yourself because you are wasting away a perfectly great childhood.
2006-11-21 00:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to follow you, go to the best college you can go to however distant. Absence makes the heart fonder! It will also give you an opportunity to meet other young men and realise if the bonds that hold you together are a habit or because you really want to spend the rest of your life together. You did get engaged at a very young age.
2006-11-21 00:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by WISE OWL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you may be seriously in love with this guy, but you've got to look out for yourself first. don't just go to a college because it will be easier for him to get to you...college is a serious thing. you have to go depending on what your major is, and so forth. and if he follows you to your dream college, but he doesn't like the college as well, that might not be so good for him either. try to find colleges that are nearby each other where your guys can still see each ohter frequently, and still achieve your dreams. and if you guys do end up going to the same college, well then, i wish you both the best of luck!!
2006-11-21 00:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by blaze5590 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound condescending or patronizing. Truly. I remember being your age and thinking that I knew what I wanted, and who I wanted to be with. But with age, you see more clearly (its true). And I would like to suggest to you that you put your relationship on the backburner and focus on your education and all the exciting experiences that lie ahead FOR YOU! It truly is the best time in your life, and trying to juggle a sweetheart in the mix is going to shortchange you. If the relationship is right, he will still be around when you graduate. But I would suggest that your experiences will change you dramatically - for the better. And you may not have the same feelings for this boy. Now is the time in your life to explore and learn about you. Follow your dreams...chase your rainbows...you have the rest of your long life to be thinking about marriage.
2006-11-21 00:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation only I'm a senior this year and about to graduate. My boyfriend is also an underclassmen. I worry about leaving everyday but what you gotta understand is that if he loves you he'll keep his promise to stay close. I've been looking at several school options and I strongly believe I'm going to stay in state not only to be near him but also to be near my family. I hope this helped you some. Loads of love and I hope you figure it all out.
2006-11-21 00:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to spend the rest of your lives together then your relationship should be strong enough to survive being separated. Choose a college that will give you a chance to have the best career you can so that you can look after each other.
2006-11-21 00:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by Tabbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you love him and to be honest in the next few years no one knows who they're going to be with nor who they're going to be with I say even if you only going to see him every once and a while you should still try and achieve you goals and put trust in your man f you have been with him that long.
2006-11-21 00:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by Shawty2Spoiled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is meant to be it will survive the test of time. Follow your own heart and not what is expected of you. These things always work themselves out. Unfortunately life is full of trials and it is these that makes us who we are. The key is always be true to yourself, the rest will fall into place.
2006-11-21 00:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by Helen C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always leave ur options open when it comes to education. i dropped everything and went with my ex and i regret doing it. i wasted a almost 2 yrs of my life to be with him in Australia. it just didn't work out and don't u think ur just 2 young for this?
2006-11-21 00:41:10 · answer #11 · answered by Stella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋