My boyfriends ex is crazy!! She calls him all the time and he talks to her, when they first broke up he still lived with her and I was talking to him. He finally moved out but he still talks to her sometimes and she always tries to get back with him, it makes me so mad but he says he is just being nice when he talks to her. I told him how mad it makes me but he doesn't get it.When they first broke up he wouldn't move out he stayed living with her for 2 months and he acted like nothing was wrong with that, I felt like she was holding him back because she would argue with him and say she needed him to stay there to help with bills. We have been together for 4 months, should I let it go or stay with him and see what happens with the crazy ex?
2006-11-21 00:27:15 · 21 answers · asked by babydj1803 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They were together for 4 years. They broke up before I met him. I think deep down he still cares for her, but I do trust him I just don't know what to do, I don't want to lose a great guy because I can't trust
2006-11-21 00:40:23 · update #1
It sounds like they might still have something going on.
Bottom line is this - the ex keeps calling because he gives her a reason to. He talks to her, and he's nice to her. if she loves him, then that is more than enough to give her hope.
Here's what you do. Sit him down, and explain to him again how angry it makes you that he still talks to her.
Then give him a choice - either he stops talking to her completely, or you'll leave him. If you mean anything to him, he'll cut her off.
hope this helps
2006-11-21 00:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mister 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think from what you said that you are solely responsible for the separation of your boy friend with his ex. It also appears from what you stated that his ex is still in love with him and is pestering him everyday. If that is the case just think it over if you could live without him and try to patch up both the ex lovers by which you would have helped one poor sole in this life. Sacrifice is the best charity in this world and if you want know about it read a tale of two cities written by charles dickens. I know I am cutting you badly but sorry I have to give this reply after going through what you have stated here. Thank you.
2006-11-21 00:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is aware of what he is doing. IGNORE HER. The one rationale she's being so ridiculous & flamboyant is due to the fact that she is recieving concentration for it. Persuade your acquaintances & yoruself that she's not valued at your time. Discontinue stressful about her (the difficulty is between her & your boyfriend and definitely he is dealing with it fine). The extra awareness you supply her the extra she's going to behave this way. In case you overlook about her, she is going to run out of steam & give up. When persons ask you what you feel about her say "i do not care about her & i've nothing to say to or about her". The faster you convince everyone that she is not having an outcome on you & yoru relationship, the faster all people as well as the ex, will loose interest. This can be a lot of pointless drama fueled by means of awareness.
2016-08-09 23:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's such a great guy, why don't you trust him? Hmmm...that doesn't make much sense to me. I think that he might have feelings for her (unless they have kids together) or else he wouldn't make contact with her. I think that you are extremely jealous over the situation, which I can't necessarily blame you for but if he has no intentions of cutting off communications, I think it would be in your best interest to leave. If not, you're probably going to just endure a considerable amount of stress and heartache waiting for someone who may never come around.
Good luck:)
2006-11-21 01:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 07:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend is trying to have his cake and eat it to. He likes the fact that his ex girl still wants him because he can run to her whenever you two have a problem. Don't take that kind of abuse let him go and if he comes back on his knees then do what you want with him.
2006-11-21 00:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long were they together? I'm sorry to say this but I think he's not over her yet.
1. They did live together and as you know that is usually a pretty big step in a relationship
2. You got with him right away no rebound time.
2006-11-21 00:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by krystal c 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm afraid that there's nothing much you can do. its ur boyfriend who have to take the initiative to end things with the ex. tell ur bf nicely how it affects you. make him understand. he should put you as the first in his priority list. its not his ex that is struggling to make him happy everyday and attend to all his needs. its called a break up coz it breaks. make him understand and hopefully he'll come around and stop doing all that. good luck!
2006-11-21 00:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by nini moreal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend and his ex are still too connected for you to be involved with this guy. The two of them are still a couple and you need to bail out right now.
For future reference, please understand when a guy is truly having problems with an ex it is never your responsibility to handle the issue, it is "his" duty to take control of the matter.
2006-11-21 00:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him because he is not serious about you. If he was serious he would tell his ex to get lost and he would never stay connected with her except to finalize any problems with the divorce and this would be business. Sounds to me he still loves her even though he won't admit it and it is obvious she still loves him whether she admits it or not. FIND SOMEONE ELSE!
2006-11-21 00:31:48 · answer #10 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋