Whilst talking to a friend there about life in general he mentioned that he didnt believe in marriage and the legal contracts that go with it - I was horrified as I think getting married is the ultimate show of love - just wondering what the rest of you guys think about it? Cheers XX
2006-11-21 00:19:19 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys can I just point out - hes not my partner!
Just a topic of conversation that came up!!!
2006-11-21 01:01:27 · update #1
no i wont marry you! but yes i most certainly believe in it! the fact that people dont think they need to marry has led to the breakdown of the family and the problems we see now are the results of selfish people who have kids and then think they are under no obligation to stay around! i can say this cus i have done the same in the past myself. if we would have been marryd and committed to each other we would have work on our relationship instead of parting!
2006-11-23 06:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by adriboff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooohh good question.
Basically I don't beleive in marriage, I just don't see the point, and certainly do not beleive in the religious side of marriage.
However I have a long term girlfriend/fiancee and a 15 month old baby girl. So my daughter has my name and my g/f doesn't which is very difficult for her. I would also like to provide the security that if anything happened to me, the mother of my child would immediately be my next of kin, so no complicated legal issues.
I also want to OFFICIALLY commit to my girlfriend, I'm not bothered about the fancy do and inviting loads of people but think we would both deserve a lovely day and a honeymoon and like you say the ultimate show of love.
So although I don't agree with the principles of marriage, I do beleive that it provides stability for a family and should not always be looked on as 'out of date.'
We're thinking of getting married at the end of August 2007.
2006-11-22 23:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest i dont believe in marriage any more. I am 43, and when i was younger i obviously wanted to get married, but after my first relationship of 8 yearswhich was abusive ( i had 1 child) and my present relationship of 16 years ( another child) thelast thing in the world i want to do is get married. I cant see the point to me its just a piece of paper and a ring. My partner was married before, but he wont propose because he knows what my answer will be. Years ago people worked at their marriages, today itstoo easy to get a divorce, 2 people can live together and be in love without all the fuss and expence of a wedding, now days couples aren't bothered anymore, at the end of the day how many people walk down the isle in a white dress that arnt virgins, its just hypercritical. Still if you belive in marriage then best of luck were all entitled to our opinions.
2006-11-21 00:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by mazza999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was all for marriage, but now that i have been with my partner for almost 8 years it kind of feels like "whats the point"? it already feels like we are married now anyway as we have 2 children together. I wish we had of got married after the first couple years as i really want to get married in a castle!
2006-11-21 00:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by lucy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully I'm not sure... why do you need a piece of paper to justify your love for your partner? If you can live happily together and know that you are only going to be with them and they are only going to be with you what is a paper going to change? Plus here in Minnesota if you are with the same person living in the same house for i think 6 or 8 years the state considers you a married couple. Don't get me wrong though to have my dream wedding would be nice to be pampered and spoiled for a whole day would be great, but I would only do it to have the wedding.
2006-11-21 00:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly do believe that you do NOT need a piece of paper to prove your commitment to one another. You can be committed and love another person without having to say "I do", and in fact, alot of the time, the "I do" turns into "I wish I hadn't". It's almost as if with that 1 piece of parchment, everything changes, and not always for the better. He becomes possessive, she becomes paranoid and hates his friends all of a sudden - you get the picture! Getting married is not all it's cracked up to be, and I think alot of people get married BECAUSE it's what's expected. That is why there is so much divorce!
2006-11-21 00:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im for marrage it protect you many girls get pregnant and there partners leave them,
a marriage is a secure bonding you know you can't leave the person like that, or do a cheating on one another
plus no diseases, 2 people love it each other should why not get married and show it
2006-11-21 00:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isn't for everyone but I believe in it myself and would certainly like to get married if the right woman came along. Not that I hold out too much hope of that. (Has a little cry).
2006-11-21 00:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only down side to marraige is having a mother in law i call mine out law other than that regular sex home cooked meals and letting her have the remote control when i go out with the lads is perfect plus i don't have to do the washing or ironing ..
PS i do cook for her everyday and do the dishes and take her out every week so i'm not a male chauvenist really..
2006-11-21 00:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For! Been married 3 times. Got married April this year. Very happy!
2006-11-21 00:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋