I'm hispanic and my girlfriend is black. I recently proposed to her and she said yes. My father doesn't like blacks he doesn't even know about her. What should I do?
2006-11-21 00:03:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have her give him a BJ in a bar, then introduce them!
2006-11-21 00:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
First off my friend, you are probably in love. That means that you do not think straight , you do not see the other persons faults, you do not act like yourself, and you can only think that she is an angle. Let me tell you this, love is like a sickness or a disease that comes over us from time to time. The problem with it is this, in most cases we get over it and then we wonder how the heck did we get in this mess.
Now my friend, it is time that you realized some hard facts. There is a lot of cultural differences between you two, not to mention the physical and personal differences. These , you do not see right now, but you will later and they will cause all sorts of problems for you. I know son, I have been there and done that, so my best advice for you is to honor your father, because that in itself will cause you all sort of problems in the future. You should do what is very hard, and break it off with this lady, and give yourself time to think straight again. Hispanics are typically very family oriented and whether you realize it or not , one day this will be important to you. Please forget this black lady, and find a woman that will bring you blessings and not the scorn of your people. Be a man, and realize that the children that you and the black lady may have will suffer for your mistakes. That is what will tear your heart out. You think what you face now is hard, wait untill your child is scorned and treated unfairly by others.
Be a man and walk away. don't think only of yourself. Have you asked God about this relationship. He can help you !!! Gerald
2006-11-21 08:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are asking this, you obviously care about your father and his opinion.
My advice would be to tell your father that you love and respect him, but you have found the one for you, and she 'just so happens' to be black. Also tell him that you would like for him to meet her and get to know her.
You should also tell your fiance about your father if you haven't already, just to give everyone e 'heads up'
Bottom line, this is 2006, and the world doesn't have time for petty racism anymore. Let your father know this in a respectful way.
2006-11-21 08:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by Mister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am white and my hubby is black, when some of my family first found out about him they were a little shocked but they got to know him and now most of them are even friends with him! Just go with your heart and forget about what your father thinks! If he loves you then he will come around!
2006-11-21 08:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Stranger In Maine™♥ (Thriller) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better have a talk with your father. Hopefully you are supporting yourself and have your own place to live. If you are over 18, it is your decision.
Interracial marriages are more work, and there will always be prejudice, plan for that and don't be surprised, the world won't change just because you think they should.
Good luck.
2006-11-21 08:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend is in a similar situation, but u know what all people are great and it doesn't matter what anyone say's. You love her and want to get married than u do it and yes it may be hard and u may have to deal with comments but love is greater than any other. So listen to ur heart!!!!!!!!!!!! Congratulations on ur engagement i wish u all the best and then some!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-21 08:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it doesn't seem like his opinion ever mattered that much to you if you reached as far as getting engaged to this woman, so why should it matter from now on? Let him live miserably with his hate while you and your fiance have a happy life together and hopefully long-lasting marriage.
2006-11-21 08:09:25 · answer #7 · answered by fickle™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you want.... your family may never change their views and that's something you will have to learn to deal with. But if you love her and you want to marry her do it.... You may never meet or have another love like this and if you let her go you may regret it for the rest of your life. Your family if they love you they will give her a chance. Do what you feel in your heart. Worry about you and her, not everyone else.....
2006-11-21 08:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's YOUR life, not your father's. If your father is such a bigot, he has no business in your life to begin with. It's that simple. I'd give a longer answer, but a longer answer isn't required here.
2006-11-21 08:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Nodtveidt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of the people on the sites listed below are in
interracial relationships -- perhaps they can give you
advice on how to speak with your father about your fiance.
http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/Generation-Mixed
http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/MGM-Mixed
http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/FGM-Mixed
2006-11-24 00:07:52 · answer #10 · answered by mixedraceperson 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oops, you haven't adressed this yet?
well, he isn't the one marrying her, you are, so just go very slowly, invite HIM to activities with you guys, then maybe inviting HER to activities with him.
you can't help it if your dad's an idiot about this, but hopefully he will see that she is a good person.
2006-11-21 08:05:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋