Should I give him the 1 carat engagement ring back, now that its over? Or should I keep it?

Question

We met when I was 20yrs old. We were together for 12 years, engaged the last 2 years. And in those two last years he cheated on me twice. The first time he cheated, he said he was sorry and that he loved me and would like to still make things work out for us. And well I forgave him but my heart was wounded and my trust in him was gone. I was still in love with him and me myself did not want to loose him. I think the problem was that I loved him more than I loved myself. Anyways since the trust was gone, next thing I know I was all double 007 on his ***. Cheking his cell phone when he was sleeping and checking his computer his wallet, etc. Well I found out of his myspace account. I managed to get his password and hells no, the *** was using the site to hook up with girls. Well to make a long story short, HE left me for someone he met through myspace. He wanted nothing to do with me anymore and 7months later Im still hurt. He didn't ask for the ring back. But should I just give it back?

Answer 1

Keep the ring, as for all that time you loved him unconditionally. HE was the one that cheated, so keep it. If you cheated or the tables were turned, then i would say to give it back. But keep it honey. Go pawn it, or sell it, and buy yourself something beautiful because you deserve it! Dont keep that specific ring as it will remind you of all the hurt. SELL IT!!

Answer 2

Its yours. Dont pawn it because a pawn shop wont give you any money for it. Put an add in the paper before christmas and some guy will buy it to give to his girlfriend as a gift or to ask for marriage. That ring depending on the quality is probably worth a good chunk of change, so use it baby, and take a trip or cruise with it, or just go on a shopping spree and buy whatever makes you happy! Be sure to take it to a jewelery store to get an estimate on its value, then you can sell it for about 30 to 40 percent less in the paper. Or put it on ebay. You will still get more than a pawn shop.

Answer 3

Legally you don't have to, even if he sued you, in most states who ever is at fault for the relationship failure does not get the ring.

But, it seems like this is more of a personal issue. I would not keep it, nor would I give it back. I would probably pawn it. By keeping it you are not fully letting go. By giving it back, you may be looking for a way to contact him or hurt him. Sell it. You will find someone else, just let go. I know it's hard. He isn't worth all this pain anyway :)

Answer 4

Hanging on to the ring is part of what is holding you back from healing. It will take some time to get over his betrayal and keeping the ring is just a reminder of this unfortunate relationship. If he doesn't want it back, (have you asked him?), then I would try to sell it on eBay. Who knows, you might get a decent price for it and then can use the proceeds to do something for yourself. Whatever means you use to rid yourself of this symbol, I would do it soon. You don't need a physical reminder of the pain you've been caused, sounds like you've got enough memories for that so get rid of the ring. You'll heal a little quicker.

Answer 5

Ok...........let's be blunt here.

First off, the re-sale value of jewellery is extremely minimal therefore any return will be a fraction of it's true worth. Secondly, would selling the ring make you feel any better? If the answer's "Yes" then by all means sell it but I think that a true sign of disdain would be to return the ring as this would show him that you really couldn't care and portray to him an image of strength and indifference towards him.

He sounds like an a*s and even the mere thought of you, in days to come, staring at the ring dreaming of what could be will only feed his pathetic ego.

Stick it in an envelope, push it through his letterbox and walk away with a smile on your face............you're better off without any reminders.

Answer 6

At first I was going to say give it back, now after reading this--It's just an excuse to see this guy, WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU, GIRL. Get a grip. Pawn the ring if it causes you grief, do not see this guy again, ever. He's a bum, he's a ****** ******* ******. You catching my drift here? Get your mother to lock you in your room, your girlfriend to chain you to the sink, whatever it takes to keep you away from him. Sheesh, lots of guys out there, some are even worth the time.

Answer 7

No.
Despite what the feminazis may advise you to do keep the ring!
He gave you that as a contract of impending marriage and a sign that he loved you. He broke the contract and he stopped loving you (or else he's just a complete pr*ck).
Sell the ring and take yourself off on a break with a friend and HAVE FUN!

Answer 8

keep the ring and sell it at a pawn shop. that guy ain't worth it, he's a deceitful
anal.

Answer 9

Ya dear just go to him and send this ring back to him as soon as possible, coz it wont let u to heal.

Answer 10

emm...
my boyfren once do it on friendster n later on myspace.
i m hurt.
yeah..
i noe how u feel..
u feel betrayed..
i still love him
but to be honest..
the trust is gone..
i keep having doubt on him
n its do make him feel suffocating.,.\
n i always tell him that
all this happen because of u being unfaithful towards me..
he changed cause i give him a choice..
to be with me
or
to be with your myspace.
he choose me n willin to change.
i ask him what will he feel if i do wut he did.
he said he will be hurt..
once, i did create myspace.
n thank god, there r so many guys interested to be my fren even proposed me to be his.
but then, i keep tellin my self that i did all this just to make him feel wut i feel..
he found out n burst out in front of me..
he cryin n regret everythin..
honey...
remmber this..
if he love u, he will ask for u to come back..
on that time, u r havin all da control on him.
take thata dvantages and give him a educational revenge..
make him feel wut u felt now.
its hurt but u will get da benefits next...
about da ring, just keep it...
oh yeah.. for now..
create a myspace account n add him.
then, ask ur frens (guy) to give u comment n mushy2 poem..
itrs works.
trust me..