I'm in a long-distance relationship and my boyfriend, who can be categorized as healthy jealous, is trying to convince me that I shouldn't wear many of my sexy clothes because I'm alone in a new city. He says it's up to me to decide but he's just letting me know that he's uncomfortable with it knowing that I'll be getting all these looks and people will be hitting on me. I keep telling him that clothes have nothing to do with that and he shouldn't worry, but he isn't convinced. And although he leaves it up to me, but I know he's upset over it. I just don't want him to be upset over a silly thing like this, at the same time I don't wanna feel tied up and I'm worried he'll have the habit of doing the same thing when he's around... HELP!!! What do you think I should do?!
2006-11-20 21:45:47 · 9 answers · asked by JustAGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He loves you...that is certain. But he's only being over protective. Do not balme him for that. That is a trait of being head over heels...
Yes. Tell him you will do want he says, but between me and you, you wont. Just be a girl , when you put on those seductive clothes of yours...and be careful to be cautious of what you wear when he comes around.
Cheers.
2006-11-20 21:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by sonnieakporherhe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, plenty of women are strong and mature but it's socially well documented that some men STILL see provocatively dressed women as "good time girls" and will approach them with a view to scoring.
I understand your concerns but I sympathise with your guys as many men can get very assertive, especially on nights out where alcohol is prevalent. I'm by no means condining this behaviour, just highlighting it and mentioning that it does happen.
To me it sounds like your guy is just uncomfortable with his own helplessness in being able to be there to look out for you rather than dress you head to toe in a Nun's habit. My girlfriend receives a lot of unwanted attention and some men have become very physical, grabbing her a*s and pulling her close which concerned me. Not because of the way that she dressed, just that she's a stunning, petite lady and some men are animals who still think that women dress sexily to attract neanderthal behaviour.
2006-11-20 21:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what he wants to hear and wear what you want to wear.
A 'healthy jealous' can be fatal to a relationship, it smacks of insecurity and controlling on his part. If he doesn't trust you, then he should be there with you.
He's playing both sides of the fence with his attitude. He's saying 'it's up to you' but at the same time letting you know if you don't do what he says, he'll be upset about it.
2006-11-20 21:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you wear shouldn't be a concern as long as you are not acting on the passes or guys that hit on you. You need to have trust & if you don't then why are you together? Girls can wear wht they feel comfortable in & shouldn't have to worry about guys hitting on them. Take care
2006-11-20 21:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with what you believe. if he doesn't believe you then that means that he's kind of too protective. that can be flattering, to know that he cares for you... but you're a big girl and you can take care of yourself. you wouldn't be in a relationship if you weren't mature enough. be strong. i'm rooting for you! good luck!!!!
2006-11-20 21:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by animegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am just like u..
my boyfren is an air-force student..
and he keeps sayin "honey, pls dun wear those sexy clothes.."
it is normal for ur boy to be worried about u.
come on..
they had try they hard to get u..
n now he r so far from u..
of course they quite jealous..
wut i do is..
tellin him how much u love him
n no matter wut people say
u will always be in my heart..
good luck..
2006-11-20 21:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by MiSsY fLiRtY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to your boyfriend, as his concerns are very valid. Ultimately, however, it is all your decision.
2006-11-20 21:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you want, long distance relationships don't work
2006-11-20 21:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he is slighlty more possesive but he may be right depending upon ur location.
2006-11-20 21:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋